(Closed) Has any other bee put your FI in charge of anything for the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 1
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Did it work out? Was your Fiance great at it, or did you take the responsibility back because it wasnt getting done?

I felt overwhelmed with the DJ thing, so I handed the responsibility of taking care of all things DJ, including finding one, double checking to make sure we’re on the DJ’s schedule, giving a deposit, telling what songs we want and dont want. You know stuff like that.

Anyway, my Fiance got a good deal with a DJ, who is friends with his brother for 400,my FI’s brother talked to the DJ, and then told my Fiance. Im fine with that. Well, months later, maybe 8 months later, which is now, I would like to get the contact info for the DJ(my Fiance never bothered to get it). I have tried to get my Fiance to get the name of the DJ and contact info before, but to no avail.

So I told him last week that we have GOT to get contact info for the DJ. Its silly that we dont have the phone # to our OWN DJ! I would like to call him to make sure we’re still on his schedule and that he is still doing it for 400. Only reason I want to know is because we dont have a contract because hes friends with my FI’s brother.

My Fiance said that its no big deal, we dont need it yet,etc,etc. I had it at that point. I told him fine you ARE in charge of the DJ, but when you finally do get the contact info and you call him and he tells you that we are NOT on his schedule,or something else, you can be the one to explain to all our family and friends WHY we dont have any music.I told him its all on you!

I know I could ask my FI’s brother for it, but I already had a bad experience trying to get info from him about something else and dont want to go there again.

So ladies. How did it go with you when you put your Fiance in charge of something??

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Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am pretty much planning everything, Fiance is putting in his two sense but I’m the one doing all the research, etc…

I gave him one task to plan and that is the Honeymoon, he can plan it all by himself. I just told him I want to go somewhere where there’s a beach, hot sun and I’ll be happy 🙂 I’ll let you know how he does once I get there hehe

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Hubs did all kinds of stuff, including the florist 🙂 It all went pretty well.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@couawilou: Thats what I should have done.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

My husband helped out with a ton of things for the wedding. I think we split things pretty equally in terms of planning, and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. He was much better at calling up vendors/rentals and taking care of all of those things, while I headed up the charge on all of our DIY projects. It was perfect for us! 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I put him in charge of the music and dealing with the DJ and the string trio.

He’s also building our card box and the box for the ring warming.

And picking groomsmen attire and gifts.

And I also told him he’s in charge of the honeymoon. 🙂  I don’t care where we go, for how long, or anything else.  He’s making my dreams come true with tickets to see our favorite band in Florence, Italy – but other than that, I have no clue what else we’re doing or where it’ll be.  Thank god.  If I had to add planning this to my list I’d lose my effing mind.

 

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

The only thing he really did solo was coordinate the rehearsal dinner (sort of–his parents paid for it and helped a ton, but he ordered the food!). Other than my dress and the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, Darling Husband pretty much helped me with everything too, though. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I put Darling Husband in charge of the actual ceremony, since he is a pastor. 🙂  I also asked him to order the unity sand kit (though, of course, I had a lot of input on color and style), take care of obtaining the marriage license, and arrange for the out-of-town-guests’ hotel accommodations. I also had him take the lead on planning the rehearsal dinner (but, of course, I had a lot of input on venue and menu!) 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I guess thats the key. Put him in charge but have a lot of say so with it! lol

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The only thing I put my Fiance in charge of is to tell his brothers and cousin about the bridal party stuff and he told me he will get to it. My Fiance is a real slacker and would not trust him with anything. I love him to death but know he is not good at keeping up with any wedding stuff.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Fiance found our ceremony venue and I have found our reception venue and photographer but he has been with me at every meeting I had with vendors. My Fiance is very much involved with the planning because he wants me not to over stress about the wedding planning. Right now, he’s looking up potential DJs and he already has some caterers in mind that he wants to check out.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

My Fiance is in charge of dealing with the groomsman and certain vendors, laying out the invites (he’s much more computer saavy than I am and we’re DIYing them), and helping with other little tasks.

Sometimes I have to remind him three or four times to do things but he does get them done eventually 😉 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

our bach and bachelorette party – we are doing it as a joint celebration. It was the one thing he is SUPer excited about! 🙂 we are renting a houseboat for 3 days!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I probably won’t be putting Fiance in charge of much besides sending him to get measured for his tux. I hate to say it, but he just doesn’t get everything that goes into a wedding and will probably be way too laid back about the wrong things (case in point: we’ve been engaged for 4 months and he hasn’t once looked up or researched anything on his own, not even out of curiosity). Not to mention that right around the 3-6 month mark when I’ll be running around like crazy to make sure everything is getting finalized, it will be playoff football time (yes, Fiance is a total football nerd).

With all of that being said, I am going to ask his input on most everything and he will be coming with me to make decisions on things like the food, cake, etc.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I put my Fiance in charge of the DJ too… I had a list of names for him to call. He talked to one, they seamed cool, but I ended up having to call them the next day.  Fail.  

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