(Closed) Has anybody experienced the "what ifs"?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Birdiebaby4:  Yep! I am in the “What if” category. 

Just like you I looooove my Fiance, he is the best. 

But I do catch myself laying in bed at night going, “What if?” and it is What ifs for everything not just divorce. I think this is normal to question things like this. 

I always try and steer myself into healthy thinking though and remind myself of the qualities I love about my Fiance, and the things we’ve accomplished together. 

We’ve been together for 6 years now, so we have a lot of history together which reminds me to be confident in my decisions that we make for our future together. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Birdiebaby4:  At 6 years I still wonder if we’ve dated long enough, but then I tell myself that is crazy talk. 

I don’t know if you are like this, but for me I am a planner I try and plan everything even for things that haven’t happened, or never will happen, so I invent scenarios in my mind and try to plan and fix them, so when my brain starts taking it to a dark place of “what ifs” in my relationship with Fiance I have to stop myself and start getting my mind back in the present moment. It is so easy to wonder off into the future, and not realize how great things are going in the present. 

I wish you and your fiance’ all the best!

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