Post # 1
I am nearly 20 weeks pregnant and am strongly considering changing OBs. I’ve never ‘clicked’ with mine, so to speak, and she has a reputation of being the least personable OB in the practice I go to. I always feel like I’m going to the principal’s office or to my boss’s office to be scolded when I see her, and I feel really uncomfortable asking questions. I really want to try for an intervention-free birth, or for as few interventions as possible and she doesn’t agree with this philosophy. I told her I was going through the Bradley method natural childbirth course and she laughed at me. I’m low risk, so I’m not really sure why she cares. I’d really like to switch but I’m worried its too late. Has anyone else switched during their pregnancy? At what point is too late?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t think its too late. If you are not comfortable with her I would switch
Post # 4
I switched doctors, but it was because we moved.
Post # 5
That doesn’t sound like the kind of relationship you should have with your OB. I’m not buddy-buddy with mine or anything, but I do like her a lot, and also the OB nurse practitioner too. I know she might not be the one who is on duty when I deliver, but I chose that office because all their doctors have great reviews, and mine is actually the head of the OB dept at the hospital, so I feel like I’m in good hands. If I had that cold going-to-the-principal feeling, and she wasn’t professional (laughing at me) I’d switch. You might want to look into a birthing center with midwives since they have the low-intervention philosophy. Doctors sometimes don’t like to hear when people have a strict birth plan since circumstances often change and people can’t get what they want all the time. I would think you should switch sooner rather than later, since you’re nearly 1/2way.
Post # 6
I’m still seeing a GP. We don’t get transferred to an OB until later in pregnancy here, well I guess I had the option to go to an OB earlier, but all my doctor does is blood work, blood pressure, urine samples etc… nothing specialized. Besides my doctor rocks and was just pregnant herself, so she’s got great insight.
I don’t think it’s too late at all, especially since the most important part of your journey when it comes to an OB has yet to come- delivery! You need to be comfortable with the OB who will be with you on through that!
Post # 7
@dreamocracy: I wish the midwives here had a birthing center! We don’t have one, so the midwives in my area do home-births only. If we lived a little closer to the hospital I would totally go the at-home route with a midwife.
I’m kind of hoping that maybe I just had an ‘off’ day with her yesterday but I don’t really want to have another off day with her on the day I deliver either 🙂 My old OBGYN (in the same practice) is AMAZING but she doesn’t deliver babies anymore.
Post # 8
YES!!!! I switched OBs at 24 weeks and it was one of the best decisions ever! I actually loved my former OB, but she would only deliver at one of the city hospitals (NYC) that was in a very bad neighborhood. I was willing to tolerate that because I loved my OB so much…….but then we experienced that hospital for all three of our ultrasounds (8 wk, 12 wk & 20 week) and each ultrasound was increasingly worse in how I was treated. At the 20 week/anatomy scan I actually cried through most of my appointment because due to things the ultrasound tech was saying and doing, I was convinced that there was something seriously wrong with my baby. (I also was not allowed to see the screen during my anatomy scan appointment which did not help the situation.) Everything is 100% healthy with my baby but I realized I could never go back there because they managed to terrify me when everything is OK – what if something may actually be wrong and I had to get checked again for something? I would have a complete heart attack going back there. I figured WHY am I tolerating these awful support services for an OB that I love when that OB probably won’t even be the person delivering my baby – and if she IS the one that delivers my baby, she’s only there at the very end to catch it as I push it out?
I got a recommendation from a coworker/friend that was having her baby at the hopsital I wanted to be at. It’s only 5 more minutes (by car) away from the former hospital and her OB/GYN practice was so much better than where I was going before. Everything was clean & new, very organized, and the staff was super nice as well as highly professional. They do ultrasounds right in the office (except fo the 12 & 20 week scans are at the brand new hospital where I will now be having my baby). I didn’t realize how ghetto my previous OB office was until walking into this place and I can’t believe I waited as long as I did to switch OBs.
I would highly recommend that you ask around and get a good recommendation for an OB before you make the switch (so you don’t have to keep forwarding your medical records all over town in search of a good OB). I think that we naturally feel so vulnerable during our pregnancies already that it is so important to be recieving healthcare from people/a place that you are comfortable and happy with. Again – it was the best decision for me. Good luck!!!!
Post # 9
I personally have not, but I did a ton of research to make sure I was seeing someone I got along with right from the start…but your OB sounds really awful, I wouldn’t hesitate to switch!
Keep in mind though that if you switch to another OB with the same practice/hospital…you might still end up with the old one doing the delivery. In my experience, at most hospitals your baby will be delivered by whatever ob (or in my case, midwife) is there or on call, even if that person is not the ob/midwife you’ve been seeing. Luckily all the midwives at my hospital are supportive of what I want, and they all meet once a month to go over different patients and their needs and wishes so you don’t have to re-negotiate your birth plan with the ob/mifwife that is there when you’re in labor.
Post # 10
I still vote for switching 🙂 as long as you pln on staying in the same practice just with a different dr it should be ok!
Post # 11
I would just be careful. A lot of practices I know don’t really think it’s okay to switch docs in the same practice, and things could even get awkward at the same hospital. I agree with PP about asking around to your friends about who they like, but I would switch out of your practice, because I think most places would be weird about you trying to switch within. Good luck, and I hope you find someone you like!
Post # 12
What is the policy about who will be taking care of you during the birth? A lot of practices rotate your care in the hospital anyway…. so if you stay in the same practice there is a shot she’s the one you will have anyway, depending on when/how you go into labor and how many Drs they have…. so I would definitely check that out.
I think it’s fine to switch Drs, but I would find a new one as soon as possible. I think it’s a good topic to open up discussion with potential new OB’s…. I would be up front about why you want to switch.
One thing to think about…. as someone who had to have an unplanned c-section due to complications after 22 hours of labor….. I would prefer a Dr with a shitty bedside manor but GOOD baby delivery skills than someone who “agrees” with my birthplan. I don’t know ANYONE in real life whose birth actually went according to plan. She may have thought you were being a bit naive…. however, she should have been more willing to talk with you about your back up plans etc. if things don’t go the way you hope they will.
Post # 13
@julies1949: OMG – it was so refreshing to see your comment here – Darling Husband just got a new job offer and we are going to be moving (pretty far – from NYC to Atlanta!) in about a month. I’m 13 weeks right now and so will probably be 17-18 weeks around the big move and while I am lucky to have friends in ATL with kids so I think I will be able to get a referral, it’s still freaking me out a bit because I really like my current OB. Do you mind PM’ing me to share some details of how you handled the move and the OB switch??? That would be awesome!
Post # 14
Update: I tried to switch today to another practice. Actually, two others. Both said no, that they don’t accept patients as far along as I am. Wonderful.
I’m going to try to get over it with my current OB and just hope that she was having a bad/off day because our other appointments have been much better. Like I said, she’s not really personable but she knows her stuff. I just hope in the future she will show some respect for what I’m comfortable with.
Post # 15
@ellebeerob: That’s too bad. Hopefully she was just having an off day as well.
I switched at 16 weeks to a different doctor in the same practice. If my husband gets the job he’s looking into now, I may be moving out of state and switching again at around 24 weeks.