Has anyone added his name to yours without a hyphen?

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have not done so but after getting married I changed my name from Bravo Victor to Bravo Sierra and it actually made me feel a bit sad like I was trading my family in.  I had never thought of using both last names before, but since then I’ve talked to my husband and we are both considering changing our names to include both last names.  These days, it’s not that we’re signed over to our husbands!  This is a joint effort and I really like the idea of both last names! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Are you asking about having two last names?

What I did was drop my middle name & make my last name my middle name, which would read excatly like you wrote “my first name, my last name, his last name.” Even though I technically have one last name, I refer to myself by my full name during new introductions (esp work related ones.) So although I don’t have a hyphen my “middle name” is always included on all documentations.

Like you,  just didn’t want to completely loose my last name, so I thought this was a great way to have both

Also, for your children, my mom actually made her maiden name my brothers middle name (she didn’t do it on mine just my bro’s lol,) so that is another way to ensure your name is part of your childrens names.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

one of the women i work for did this– i’m changing the names to made up ones, but her maiden name was something like sheila wilson, and she’s now sheila wilson burk. it totally works! the only thing is that we work in a field with lots of writing and publications, and it gets confusing about whether her citations should be listed in bibiliographies under w or b (ie burk, sheila wilson, or wilson burk, sheila). i’m not going to do this for my name because both my and my fi’s last names have 8 letters and 3 syllables, so it’d be super long, but i think it’s a great option!  

Post # 7
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Busy bee

imj pretty sure you can change your name to whatever you want, you might have to opt to making your last name a middle name though.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

This is what I’m doing, just tacking it onto the end. It just is easiest.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Stupid question here – alphabetically are you the first letter of yours still?  And can you pick and choose when to just use your hubby’s last? 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

yes, it’s very simple. you go to the social security office and just write it down πŸ™‚ I have 4 names, First middle mylast hislast πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

my mom did not have a middle name, she made her maiden her middle, and my dad’s last name her last name.  so:  her name, her last, his last.  worked fine!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

i am pretty sure that i am going to do the same thing as mrs. d’orsay (i love my middle name, want to take his name but not sure I want to lose my maiden name altogether)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We were figuring out what to do about this.  My fiance and I were actually both going to change our last names to Mine-His.  But i think we are both going to change our last names to Mine His (i.e. no hyphen).  

 

I wanted to 1) keep my last name, 2) have him take my name as well 3) make sure that my whole family had the same last name (I had a different last name from the rest of my family & i HATED it), 4) not make it a pain for our kids to have a hyphenated last name (my friend had one and she said it caused all kinds of issues for her).

When we have kids they are just going to have his last name so that we will be the “His Family” but I can still introduce myself with my maiden name, basically as my middle name.  LOL.  sounds complicated, but I think this is the best solution

 

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@bluebook:  You can definitely name your kid with a hyphenated last name AND a middle name.  That was my friend’s situation, but she said it was always a hassle, b/c people would tend to drop one or the other, and wouldn’t know how to alphabetize it (sometimes by one name sometimes by the other), as well as the fact that it was longer.  I think it was also confusing to people once she got to the “marrying age” but her name wasn’t hyphenated b/c of marriage.  

I think more kids are probably having hyphenated names now, since people are being more “progressive” with their names, but it’s still pretty unusual.  

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