(Closed) Has anyone adopted in the last few years?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Have they thought about surrogacy?

Edit: I found this article, maybe pass it along to them. http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=91834&page=1#.T_jTvytYsfI

I think if they’re willing to spend the money, either through surrogacy or private adoption, they can eventually get the baby they want.

 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I suggest they try another agency. Some are more understanding than others.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That is really harsh. Being honest and then they don’t want to help. Wow.

They should try another agency. There are so many babies/children that need homes and these people are willing and open to do it, I hope they don’t give up and keep trying.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

They should become foster parents. There are lots of babies that enter the system and then stay there. They would be given the chance to adopt children they fostered eventually. They can communicate that they are fostering looking to adopt, and they will receive babies/kids that fit those possible conditions.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Also, (and you might not want to pass this along to them) maybe the prospect of adopting internationally could help motivate them lose weight? You don’t mention how overweight they are but maybe if they give themselves a year or two to lose a significant amount of weight, they’ll be married longer, sober for longer, and healthier!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I find it sad when there are so many children out there waiting to be adopted and when there’s a couple that genuinely want to adopt and love a child like their own but can’t. I think they’d have a better chance to be foster parents like mwitter80 said. I want two of my own and eventually adpoting atleast one baby girl from china when my own are older. Hopefully that plan follows through in 20 years.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kerpao:  The funny thing is there aren’t that many “American” children up for adoption. Most are in foster and not available for adoption. Its actually kind of hard to adopt. There are foreign kids available for adoption, but each country has its own legalities and can be hard and expensive.

I have two adopted siblings and even 30+ years ago they were hard to adopt. They look for the “perfect” parents. They want the parents to live in a big enough house, good enough school system, have good enough jobs, have enough time to spend with the kids, good enough health, etc. And this meant for my parents a SAHM, one of the best school systems, a really large home, married for 10 years and really good reports on all health fronts.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I find it kind of unbelievable that they can’t find it in themselves to adopt an african-american, but would take on a disabled child. Is being african american an “unmanageable” disability to them?

All told, a change of agencies would be good. Moving to a more liberal state could also help them. I wasn’t trying to adopt, but growing up in Texas, the fact that I was not Christian was a constant hurdle to my social progression there.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Bump! I hope it works out but I find it really sad that they don’t want a black baby. Especially because they now know what it’s like to be judged based on their appearance. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@crayfish: I had the same question. 

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