Post # 1
I came home to our house ransacked a couple days ago. 🙁 They took every bit of our jewelry and electronics; as well as random personal items. Beyond the sentimental loss and the monetary loss, Darling Husband and I are having a hard time emotionally.
It’s erie to be in the house and I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that it will get better or even experiences where it didn’t get better and moving was the best option.
Everything feels really raw and emotional right now… and it’s weird to look at places where we had things and for it to be empty.
I was thinking about rearranging all the furniture, etc so it would look different – every turn is a reminder of what happened. Our cozy home has been robbed of that cozy ‘home’ feeling. 🙁
Post # 3
@oracle: I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how that feels.
Post # 4
I haven’t, but I wish I could reach through the screen and ((HUG)) you, I am so sorry that happened.
Post # 5
@oracle: Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that, but glad to know you and your Darling Husband weren’t harmed.
Rearranging would probably help….but maybe it wouldn’t hurt if there were someone you guys could talk to? It’s still so fresh, that it seems completely normal that you are uncomfortable at home right now.
What about installing some type of security system?
And do the cops have any leads? Maybe check out local pawn shops or notify them to be on the lookout for items of yours (especially unique jewelry pieces that might be easily recognized.)
oh, I see your in LA….probably much harder to track something like this 🙁
Post # 6
Thanks, guys. I’m tearing up just reading your responses.
@hisgoosiegirl: unfortunately, the cops don’t have any leads. They dusted for prints but didn’t find any. Interestingly enough, they said if there was any blood – even a drop – is the best thing (like from cutting themselves on broken glass).
We also learned that pawn shops have to report everything they take in to the police and then there is a 30 day hold on the stuff before the pawn shop can sell it. Conversely, the cash for gold places don’t have any hold or reporting – so that’s where people usually take it. Just awful! I’ve been looking on Craigslist and ebay for our stuff – but it’s an absolutely disgusting feeling (as was walking into the pawn shops!). 🙁
Post # 7
yes, my grandparents house was burglarized while I lived with them. It was awful – for the first couple of days I was convinced someone was still in the house.
And I was so angry!! I wanted to beat those burglars to a pulp but I couldn’t (they were never caught)
the feelings do go away after a while, I promise. You will get your life back and you will feel safe in your house again.
Look into getting a security system.
Post # 8
I can’t speak to being burglarized but we did have someome violently kick down our front door after screaming, yelling, and repeatedly driving back and forth to our house for over an hour, around 3 AM a few months ago. It was absolutely terrifying and the only comfort I had was that after he broke in, he left without coming in further.
I felt that same loss of safety and comfort and still feel it, a bit, when I look at our (still broken but repaired enough to lock) door. I think once you’ve been broken into you realize that a locked door isn’t actually that reassuring.
The thing that made me feel best was knowing that the cops found and charged him, and knowing that it was random and will likely never happen again. That unsafe feeling does get better over time, though I suspect you’ll always be a little bit wary. Anything you can do to make things feel more comfortable is a good idea so if that’s what moving furniture around will do, I say go for it. I’m sorry that happened to you and I reccomend talking about it with someone if you think it will help — I vented to quite a few people about how scary, frustrating, and confusing it is to be randomly targeted.
Post # 9
Yes, I was burglarized about 10 years ago. I lived alone at the time. It was so jarring to come home and find that, and it was terrifying staying there for a while. It was also crazy-making. In addition to valuables, the burglar took mundane stuff like my running shoes, and even extra toothbrushes. So I’d be looking for something and if I didn’t see it I wouldn’t know whether I’d misplaced it or if it had been stolen.
It does get better, absolutely. But it will be hard for a while. 🙁 If your layout is such that you can rearrange furniture, I absolutely would. Also put up some favorite photos, buy some flowers, something to fill the space and so when you look around you will feel somewhat comforted instead of anxious.
Post # 9
@oracle: I just read the cops have no leads — sorry if my comment about feeling best knowing he was charged is insensitive! 🙁
Post # 10
@oracle: I really want to go all CSI/Criminal Minds for you. It has to be infuriating and terrifying to have your privacy violated like this.
Have their been other robberies in the area lately? Neighbors didn’t see anything?
Do you have any pics of the stuff stolen? Maybe giving a flyer/picture to the pawn shops with a small reward for reporting it would catch something?
I don’t know that you’d want to watch it, but we used to watch ‘To Catch a Thief’ It was two former criminals showing how they broke into homes, where they looked, and how they got away with it. Then they show you how to deter burglars – trimming bushes around windows, no glass next to door handles (so they can’t break it), lots of really helpful tips.
Post # 11
I was burgled a couple of years ago. It was a horrible feeling knowing that someone else had been rooting through my stuff.
I also lost jewellry including diamond studs that I had intended to pass on to my daughter. Months later I was cleaning out my dresser drawers and came upon my first wedding and engagement ring set, which I thought had also been stolen. The thief had dropped it when cleaning out my jewellry box.
All of my things were covered by insurance so I was able to replace the things that had been stolen, but not the sentiment or the memories.
I lived in a ground floor condo which I loved because of the large patio.
I had a security company come out and install bars on the windows. It doesn’t look like a prison. They are white and look like french paned windows.
Time heals all things- including the sense of invasion that you are experiencing right now.
Post # 12
Yeah, it happened when I was in the third grade, while we were sleeping. I was terrified. We got a home security system after that and it really helped – but I think I lost a sense of security I have never regained (I am sure this had to do with being 10 and no one realizing how much it affected me!)
I am sorry 🙁 It is such a violation of your privacy and personal space.
Post # 13
Our town has had a rash of break ins since just before Christmas…My mom’s friend’s house got robbed.
They took Christmas gifts for 6 kids plus her and her husband, all her jewelry including 2 full pandora bracelets, her 5 carat custom engagement ring, all her grandmothers jewelry (her family is very prominant and very wealthy so there was a lot) Her husband is a detective in the city and they did everything they could but still don’t have any leads.
They contacted all pawn shops in the area but nothing has turned up. What kills me is there is a 2 hour window during their day when no one is home. (between 9 and 11 am) They live on a corner house just off one of the main roads in our city. It was bright and in the middle of the day, how did no one see anything! They even kicked the door down to gain entry and took the drawers from her dresser!!
She stayed home for about a week refusing to leave to “make sure” no one broke in again, then she installed a security system. she has sensers on her doors and windows and if something goes off her cell is immediately contacted. It took some time, but she is starting to feel safe and “normal” again.
Post # 14
@oracle: This has never happened to me, but I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry that it has happened to you.
It has happened to family members and all I can say is that it took awhile for them to feel comfortable in their home. Taking control back (through rearranging, checking out the pawn shops, working with police) will probably make you feel a lot better. From what I understand, it’s completely normal to feel the way that you’re feeling. Talking to a counselor might also be a good idea because your safe place (home) has been violated. It’s not just about the stuff, obviously.
Post # 15
It gets easier with time. My parents home was burglarized when I was 7, and again when I was 9. I am now the only 25 year old I know who is afraid to stay home alone! I suggest getting a security system. It is going to be a very long time until you lose some of those feelings of being violated and feeling uneasy in your own home. The alarm system isn’t a cure-all, but it does help calm some of the fears and will allow you to get some rest. But it does better in time.