Post # 1
I want to know if anyone has been bullied here or on any other site specifically about your wedding?
I had it happen all throug my wedding process and even after and even on my wedding video.
People have gone out of there way to send hurtful messages and I just don’t get why people are so hateful?
In a way its made my skin tougher so I am thankful for that but I don’t understand why people do it?
Has anyone else had this problem?
Post # 3
No. What’s there to be bullied about? Did you have or do something potentially offensive during you wedding?
Post # 4
@atlbride2013: I had a very unique wedding that turned some peoples noses up… but its MY Wedding! and it was a low low budget ( 2,200) wedding so people have attacked that and just many many many things… I just wanted to know if it really was that “different” of a wedding and thats why or if other people have experianced this.
Post # 5
@alishaloo: I’ve noticed that both on this site and on the knot. I don’t really understand why people are so rude online, but it ruins the whole experience and the idea of a community.
I understand everyone isn’t going to share my opinion, but I think there’s a lot more bashing and jealousy that goes on that’s really just unneccesary
Post # 6
How did you get “bullied?” Also, how many different places online did you post your pictures and/or video? I can only imagine being bullied if I posted stuff everywhere.
Post # 7
@alishaloo: There was an interesting thread that I remember commenting on from a few weeks back on WB and “bullying” (I put the word in quotes because there was a lot of debate about the use of the word…):
Anyways, I’m sorry to hear that you were getting nasty PMs and that you felt that people being so judgemental – I only read part of the thread, so I’m not sure how nasty it got…but at the end of the day, just remember it was YOUR day and it should have been all about what YOU guys wanted. BTW – I watched the video and thought it was super cute 🙂
Post # 8
I have! I had one user in particular send me nasty PMs accusing me of being a liar. What a sweet lady, right?
Post # 9
@lollygagon: Its taught me how different people are, there has been a strong differance between people saying a different opinion tho and people that have “personally attacked”. Its been disgusting.
@gelaine22: I’ve been sent messages that said
“I hope you don’t repruduce.”
“Learn how to spell idiot”
“Your wedding was disgusting, cheap ugly and tacky.”
“I bet you get divorced and knocked up.”
Etc… just unessisarily hurtful…
I started on the knott.. that was awful so I came here and here wasn’t so bad.
but recetly I got on to watch my wedding video cause I was on a device that I didn’t have a copy of it downloaded to and I noticed I had messages on Vimeo, and I hate few really hateful hurtful messages.
My video is password protected, but I have shared that password here … so although it helps beacuse its mostly bee’s who want to watch it…
I still couldn’t believe people would go out of their way to send me a message that was so hateful.
I just wonder why people would be so insecure or what ever it could be to make them do such awful things!
Post # 10
I haven’t had a wedding, and am only just in the very beginning stages of looking to have one (or an elopement.. or.. something). However, I have a video on youtube that has been up for a couple years that I have gotten a LOT of nasty comments on – specifically about my teeth and how crooked they are (“ew, your parents must hate you” “wow you must be really poor, how did you afford _thing video was about_” “you should never make another video” “People are probably insanely disgusted when you talk IRL” etc etc). I mean, I deleted a lot of them because these people were downright horribly nasty to me. I spent a lot of nights crying when they started coming in. I never EVER thought it would get as many views as it did, I originally made it for a friend (it’s a tutorial for hair). I STILL get nasty comments, years later, but can just brush them off now. I don’t know what it is about being behind a computer screen that makes people feel like they can just be as nasty as possible, but I really feel for you.
I said this in your other thread, but I LOVED your video. I love how things were so unique. I hope you were able to get over the mean comments, because really, your wedding looked like it was a blast!
Post # 11
What did people have a problem about with your wedding?
Post # 12
@alishaloo: That’s so weird, well don’t let them get to you. There are always going to be haters!
Post # 13
Not about my actual wedding plans!
Post # 14
@glitter-girl: I was a wreck about it before too, but I’m stupid and too addicted to sharing online, and didn’t feel I should have to give up the bee beacuse of a few rude people.
I am so sorry people attacked you like that! Youtube is awful! I had to take my video off from it and switch to vimeo… I thought that was all wonderful till I realised I had messages there! People had gone out of there way to messag me since they couldn’t comment, and they did it there cause you can’t get blocked or in trouble like you can on here :/
Thank you for the support on my wedding. I know it was different, but its not like we did… any thing bad or … i d.k worshiped satan or something.. ha we just had a budget wedding that was very theatrical and low low budget!
Post # 15
@atlbride2013: It doesn’t bother me too much anymore.. there is this little like “well that was really rude :(” when I read them, at first I couldn’t handle it but then I just learned that people are in a way evil and full of hate. I am such a bubbly person that I when anything negative enters my life I’m like “WHAT THE HECK IS THAT GET IT OUT!”
Post # 16
@alishaloo: I recently posted a question on the boards that I talked crap about bridesmaid drama and how I dont understand why people put up with it and someone messaged me on here and told me that I was “the sickest, most horrible, worst friend ever. and they cant believe I still have people that actually want to be close to be in addition to a man who would want to marry me.” I also posted my dress on the boards on theknot I think and got called “a cow that needs to lose weight”. Also, I just posted a question asking about my timeline that had the logistics of my bar (in which my wedding party has a full open bar and the guests dont) which are still in the works and someone messaged me and said “You should be lucky someone is even willing to marry someone so selfish. I would not come to your wedding if I was your sister. Have fun losing everyone close to you.”
First of all….WHAT? second of all…How do people find it okay to talk to someone with such disrespect?