Post # 1
I have a feeling I may strike out, but I thought I’d try. Has anyone done a blessing of a civil marriage in the Episcopal Church/Churh of England? I can’t find much info online.
I am Episcopalian and my husband is an atheist. We had a civil ceremony at our wedding, and I am definitely now feeling upset that we did not get married at my church. My husband wasn’t really keen on the idea, but he is more open to the blessing, which is slightly different liturgy
I am interested in doing the blessing privately. Originally I wanted to elope, and I now have a lot of regrets from having a larger wedding (40 people). I can’t really explain my feelings well, but I feel almost embarassed by our wedding, like it was too flashy and showy. I have always thought of weddings as something private, and I feel I abandoned those principles between my husband’s requests and the excitement of engagement. I just feel so much regret and wish I could “do it over” differently. And I have immense regret for not getting married in the church. Getting a blessing would resolve some of that conflict and allow me to have a meaningful private moment, I think.
Post # 2
I don’t know anything about getting married in the church. I would think if you talk to someone in your church about it they can help you? How does your husband feel? I’m sorry you are having so much wedding regret…maybe try to focus on what you loved about your wedding and how you got to marry your husband with your family and friends present? Regret is such an awful feeling…please know there is nothing you can do to change the past so I would focus on the happy memories and if you feel you made a mistake try to learn from it (perhaps to be more true to yourself, or not compromise as much in the future if you feel like you don’t usually get your way). I think that wedding regret is related to wedding withdrawal. It’s only one day but it’s such a special day, and it’s hard to come to terms with it being over.
Post # 3
I don’t see why you couldn’t get a blessing. I knew a couple where the wife was catholic and the husband wasn’t. They had gotten married in a non-catholic church and later had their marriage blessed in the catholic church, 10 or so years later. I dont know much about your church but as a catholic, I’d say the catholic church is a little more strict on these things (you “must” get married in the catholic church if one party is catholic) but it didn’t seem to be a problem for this couple so therefore I’d say it shouldn’t be an issue for you. I think a blessing would be a great way for you to get your church wedding while also having it be intimate 🙂
Post # 4
My cousin got her civil marriage blessed in the catholic church (we’re catholic) but it took her a very long time to find a priest who would do it.