Post # 1
We’re thinking of doing a butterfly release as part of our outdoor ceremony (on a beach in a forest preserve). Has anyone else done this or seen it done at another wedding? I just want to know if it was more hassle than it’s worth: was it hard transporting the butterflies to your location, and did they fly out of the box as expected?
My mom, older sister, niece, and nephew will be raising the caterpillars (I live out of state) because they thought it’d be fun. It seems I can buy two butterfly houses and 86 caterpillars for $146, which I think is reasonable if we can get about 50 butterflies out of that. http://www.insectlore.com/butterfly-pavilion-2
Do you think it’s a cool idea, or not worth it?
Found a pic online for fun =)
Post # 3
Personally, I’m not a fan. I feel like it’s kind of using living creatures as props which doesn’t settle well with me.
Post # 4
@just_another_dandelion: I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I did some research, and we’ll be using monarch butterflies that are indigenous to the area, and it’ll be the correct time of year for them to be released. Also, since it’s a forest preserve, it should be an ideal habitat.
My mom is a teacher, and the caterpillar-to-butterfly unit is one they do every year. We’re choosing to raise the butterflies from caterpillars so it can be an educational experience for my niece and nephew (who are totally into “bugs” right now) and because I definitely wasn’t comfortable buying frozen butterflies individually wrapped in envelopes.
Thanks for your input, I’m definitely weighing that into the decision.
Post # 5
Please don’t butterfly’s are delicate creatures and can easily die.
Post # 6
I’m not a fan either. Honestly, I feel bad for the butterflies!
Post # 7
I was at a wedding once that did it and when they went to release them they didn’t fly away, the woman just tried to shake them out but they still didn’t fly out. I think it could be neat but has potential to go wrong
Post # 8
I would say dont do it. I think it’s mean to have them in those boxes for so long and what if they were to die before the release? That would be really sad
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Wasn’t this on Four Weddings once and it didn’t turn out well? …. they’re not like birds that you can throw up into the air and they get the cue to fly, as a PP said they are delicate.
Post # 10
@sunsetchristy: oh my god, they freeze them? i didn’t know that. i’m not a fan of releasing butterflies because i think it’s mean to them but holy crap, freezing them is horrible! that’s not directed at you because i know you said you would raise them and you wouldn’t buy the frozen ones. i’m just shocked that’s what other people do and they think it’s ok.
Post # 11
Everything I’ve read says this is usually a plan that turns to disaster – dead butterflies, expensive, people not happy with animals being used as props, hard to get good pictures, etc.
Post # 12
Wow! Thanks for the feedback, everyone. Maybe this is something my niece and nephew can just do for fun, then, because I think they were looking forward to raising them.
Or maybe we’ll bring the butterfly habitats to the venue with us and just keep them open so they can leave throughout the course of the day, instead of transferring them into a smaller cage in hopes that they’ll fly out on cue during the ceremony. Then the kids can raise the butterflies and we can enjoy the magic with them on our special day (and maybe get a photo with a butterfly or two).
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
My friend did this and it was nice. FYI they freeze the butterflies then release them. Sounds kinda cruel.
Post # 14
I went to a wedding once where the bride bought the butterflies online, so they must have been the “frozen” ones. They came in little boxes and we were supposed to open the boxes, well more than half the butterflies were dead, or still frozen. Only a handful actually flew out and they were so scattered that it was impossible to photograph. It was awful.
I say just let your niece and nephew raise the butterflies as a fun project.
Post # 15
Saw it on Four Weddings once and all the butterflies were dead.
Post # 16
No but I know a bride who did and it made me sad because of the reasons PPs mentioned above. From my perspective it isn’t a good idea for a wedding.
Kids watching caterpillars make cocoons and releasing them when they hatch (gently, in the calmness of the moment at home) is great though. Good learning experience for ’em.