Post # 1
We realize we have more than we could ever need for our household – the crockpot, the mismatched towels and a wide assortment of ikea furniture. All we are missing is a english bulldog named Coatsworth and even more important, adopted children.
We deeply believe that we are called to adopt. We look at it is as a first priority, not a backup plan. We wish to set up an international adoption fund in lieu of traditional gifts. Also, because of the difficulties of shipping gifts back home (wedding in MN, live in LA) and lack of space in our tiny apartment, this is our wish for our registry.
Has anyone else done this? I really can’t see it being a problem. Any ideas on getting people on board with this? I REALLY don’t need or want anything for my 500 square foot home.
Post # 3
Honestly I have never seen it, but I think it’s one of the coolest things I’ve heard in a long time. I think it’s all about how you present it to people, but I don’t see why the majority of your guests wouldn’t be on board. I am usually very uncomfortable giving cash gifts as presents, but I would make an exception for this.
I’m not creative so I don’t have any cool ideas on the how..but good luck!
Post # 4
@weddingnerd: +1. If I could help make my friends’ dream of adopting a child come true, I would be absolutely thrilled to help.
Post # 5
That sounds wonderful. There are so many children who want a home and family. If it was for an adoption fund, I’d be willing to give a lot more than I normally do to the couple.
Post # 6
Do it. This isn’t like people just asking for money. This makes more sense then anything else. Your wedding is about starting a family. I believe your guests would love to contribute to it.
Do you think people would send baby gifts instead of money though? Maybe they would maybe they would. I would clarify that the process of adoption can take anywhere from 6 months to 2 years.
Post # 7
Such a great idea! Our registry was a number of different charities that our guests could donate to- no gifts. Best of luck in your adoption quest-let us know how it goes:)
Post # 8
I love it. I have no idea how to present it to the guests, but I think it’s a wonderful idea.
Post # 9
I think this is such a sweet idea. If I were a guest, I would love it.
Post # 10
I just wrote a reply similar to yours on another thread – that I don’t like cash gifts/requests. For this I would make an exception.
Post # 11
I am not usually a fan of honeymoon registries, make a donation to our favorite charity “registries,” or out and out asking for cash but this is one idea I absolutely could get on board with. I’d gladly give a couple a generous cash gift or make a deposit into a special account for an adoption fund.
Post # 12
So happy this is well received? Anyone have any ideas on how I can get guests on board with this so we don’t get the boxed gifts?
Post # 13
Do you have a wedding website set up? If so, under the registry heading, write a short blurb about you and your fiance’s passion for wanting to expand your new family via adoption. Talk a bit about the process-the length, complexity, allude to the costs. Say something like “we have all the possessions we could possibly need. If you would like to help us along our journey towards expanding our family, please consider a donation to our adoption fund.” I’m sure you can make it much more eloquent. I’m working on and insomniac mind at the moment an my verbal communication skills have left me at the moment.
If you don’t have a website, maybe tell your most chatty, busybody relative or friend about your plans and ask him/her to spread word of your plans via word of mouth.
Post # 14
yup this is the under the gifts section of our website:
“To us marriage is about starting a family – not the dishes, towels or vacuum cleaner we already have. We realize we have more than we could ever need for our household. All we are missing is a english bulldog named Coatsworth and even more important, adopted children.
We deeply believe that God has called us to adopt (Isaiah 1:17, Proverbs 31:8-9, James 1:27). We look at it is as a first priority, not a backup plan. We wish to set up an international adoption fund in lieu of traditional gifts. Also, because of the difficulties of shipping gifts back to New Orleans and lack of space in our tiny apartment, this is our wish for our registry. Please bring your donations to our wedding reception. We will keep this account separate and safe until we are in the right position to start the adoption process.
Along with this, There is a campaign we fully support that is striving to make the international adoption process easier called Both Ends Burning. Check them out at:https://bothendsburning.org/
and sign the petition to help make the dream of our family a reality at:http://www.change.org/petitions/make-a-child-s-right-to-a-family-our-priority
We are so grateful for your support and thank you for your generousity and love!”
Do you think it sounds ok?
Post # 15
I LOVE this idea! So sweet and personal. I don’t see how any guest wouldn’t be on board!