(Closed) Has anyone done an adoption fund instead of a gift registry?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Would you support an adoption fund instead of boxed gifts for a friend?

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  • Post # 33
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @engleman10513:  I’m going to go against the grain here and say I don’t think an adoption fund is appropriate.  I really don’t think asking for cash is ever appropriate, regardless of its intended use.

    HOWEVER, I do think you should spread the word that you are saving for an adoption.  If people know that’s what you’re saving for, I’d bet you receive mostly cash gifts. 

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’d totally support it!!  I’ve been looking at adoption more and more and honestly the only thing holding me back is the costs involved.  Knowing that and knowing how many kids there are out there that needs homes, I’d gladly support something like this.

     

    Post # 35
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I find it very touching.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve never seen it but I think it’s nice

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee

    This is a really nice idea, I would say go for it!

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2024

    I’ve never heard of this before but I would totally give a donation to this fund over buying someone a crockpot or wine glasses! What a great idea and it’s just amazing. I actually think I would give MORE to this fund than I would on a gift or $ in a card.

    Post # 39
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have never heard of this.. But I love it !! What a great idea !

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @fishbone:  Totally disagree.  Since adoption quite often *starts* at $10-20k plus additional expenses as they grow and having a child via natural methods costs considerably less with rare exceptions (plus those same additional expenses), it’s really not the same.

    Post # 41
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Aww I love this idea! My Fiance and I have considered possibly adopting in the future, but I know the costs are insane. I don’t think its offensive or inappropriate. I also don’t think that needing/asking for help with the cost means you aren’t responsible or ready to care for a baby. People who physically give birth aren’t paying tens of thousands of dollars just to get the baby (typically. obviously with IVF and such the circumstances are different). That is a huge expense that a lot of parents never have to incur if they aren’t adopting. I wouldn’t hesitate at all to contribute to a friend’s adoption fund as a wedding gift.

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @fishbone:  affording a child and affording an adoption are two entirely different things. Obtaining a child to adopt is a lot mroe expensive than giving birth to one, from what I understand.

    Post # 43
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I like this idea. In your wording, I’d take out the part about the dog and the part where you talk about your “wish for your registry” and how the guests should bring the gift to the reception. Something like this:

     

    “To us marriage is about starting a family – not the dishes, towels or vacuum cleaner we already have. We realize we have more than we could ever need for our household.

    We deeply believe that God has called us to adopt (Isaiah 1:17, Proverbs 31:8-9, James 1:27). We look at it is as a first priority, not a backup plan. We wish to set up an international adoption fund in lieu of traditional gifts. We will keep this account separate and safe until we are in the right position to start the adoption process.

    Along with this, There is a campaign we fully support that is striving to make the international adoption process easier called Both Ends Burning. Check them out at:https://bothendsburning.org/
    and sign the petition to help make the dream of our family a reality at:http://www.change.org/petitions/make-a-child-s-right-to-a-family-our-priority

    We are so grateful for your support and thank you for your generousity and love!”

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    @fishbone:  There’s a huge difference between being able to comfotably afford to care for a child, and being able to afford adoption AND comfortably caring for a child. International adoptions can cost upward of $30,000. Birth can cost that much too, but is usually covered by insurance. I don’t see why it would raise eyebrows.

    Post # 46
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @engleman10513:  I’m sorry, but using your wedding as an adoption fundraiser is not appropriate. 

    Wedding guests and the gifts they may choose to give you are not a resource or source of income for you to direct as you please.  It would also be inappropritae to put your guests on the spot by asking them to donate for such a deeply personal desire. 

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