Post # 1
Pretty excited. After over two years of being engaged and so many crazy things happening, FI and I can finally start planning our wedding!
So this is my first wedding related question. Did you or are you going to do paper STD’s and an online invitation?
We have a smallish guestlist of 80, and have to stay under a pretty modest budget. Invitations are so expensive!
My family is all interstate, and FI’s family has lots of truckies, hospitality workers etc. so I feel STD’s are necessary to give them plenty of notice.
I was thinking of making up a wedding website, and putting the link on the STD.
All our guests are internet savvy except for FI’s grandmother, who could be assisted by his mum.
I think it would be easier for the majority of our guests to RSVP via online, and I have a lot more email addresses than I do house addresses!
In addition, I was thinking I could send an E-Invite at the 6 week mark or whatever, to remind people.
The wedding itself will be a pretty casual wedding.
Is there some etiquette or something that I am missing which makes this not okay? I have only been invited to a few weddings so far, and I always received a paper invite, so I just don’t want to offend anyone.
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
you could certainly do that, and it wouldn’t be an etiquette violation, but I think people may be confused. Typically, the invitations are more formal than the save the dates, so it makes the most sense to do an electronic save the date and then a paper invitation.
Invitations aren’t inherently more expensive than STDs, so I’m not quite sure what you’re getting at. Lots of people do online RSVP with a paper invitation.
Post # 3
Hi, thanks for replying!
What you’ve said makes sense, I hadn’t thought of it like that. I didn’t even think of doing email STD’s gosh, dummbb.
That’s probably a better way to go, and just write on the invitation RSVP online. Thanks 🙂
Post # 4
We are doing that. The Save the Dates we chose were much less expensive than the invitations, because there are fewer parts. We have a lot of guests who may be back in my fiance’s home country during the early part of the summer. Plus, a lot of his friends are still getting their degrees, so they relocate in the summer.
We got the Save the Dates, though, because we loved the design. We are going to get the same print on our menus for our table decoration.
Post # 5
Ohhh, people in my circle have been getting engaged or travelling, so as soon as we finalized a date and the guest list we made a Facebook group and event with all the people we want to invite, and from their people already said whether they were going or not, so that became our STD.
We are sending out formal invites, although since our guest list is around 45-50 give or take, with people who will only be getting one invite per group (ie family or couples), I will be printing my own invites at home since I have design/Photoshop experience. I just ordered specialty paper and nice envelopes. Paper products cost around $100 in total and I have so much surplus of materials if I need to print more.
Post # 6
I prefer paper invitations, because I think weddings are more formal occasions that deserve real invitations. Since you are having a casual wedding, I guess an online invitation isn’t too bad, but I wouldn’t do this for any more formal of an event. The invitiation generally sets the tone for the formality of the event.
Post # 7
If I were you, I’d do a digital save-the-date and a formal paper invitation. It’s less tacky and less likely to cause confusion.
Post # 8
Okay so my biggest piece of advice for invites is to use vistaprint! I’m having a small wedding too with only 50 guests invited, and my RSVP cards PLUS invitations (50 of each) came to just over $70. I also ordered custom envelope seals in the same order. We obviously don’t need 50 invites since a lot of people invited are couples, so I have a lot left over. If you sign up, they email you with deals all the time. My invites were 40% off. After that I ordered a vinyl banner for $6 and got $20 in vistaprint cash from the invites, so I bought a t-shirt for FH and another vinyl banner for FREE. I’m seriously obsessed lol. Invites do not have to be expensive. I did the opposite of what you’re planning on doing- I sent out an electronic save the date and paper invites. I just felt like if I was going to spend money it would be nicer to have the actual invitation in paper form
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be unhappy with an online invitation/RSVP/register whatever you call it! I do love paper wedding invites but I never know what to do with them after I receive them and I hate to throw them away because 1. I know they cost the sender so much and 2. it’s a meaningful thing!!!. So they just end up in a draw never seeing the light of day again anyway…
have you guys thought of doing like a quirky youtube video or something that goes with your invite? I’ve also seen a lot of people saying Vistaprint is very reasonably priced.