Post # 1
And if you did them, what did you do?
I’ve been mulling the idea over in my head and have scoured through tons of Etsy pages, but haven’t found anything that I really like enough to do it. At this point, my sisters obviously know they are in my wedding and in talking things over with friends, they have (correctly) assumed they are in the wedding, so I don’t really feel as if I need to do anything spectacular. A friend of mine who has been engaged for over a year and a half and has just now sent out “Will you be my bridesmaid?” gifts to us gals, so I don’t think there’s necessarily a time limit.
I’m just not sure where I stand on them. A part of me wants to hate them and thanks to Pinterest, another part of me thinks they are now becoming more and more “expected” of brides.
For those who did “Will you be my bridesmaid/MOH” gifts, what did you do?
Post # 3
I was extremely late and lazy asking my girls (and one guy) and I literally texted one of them to ask them. Yikes! I think it would have been cute for me to do something but I didn’t plan on having bridesmaids until about 2 months before the wedding and then it was like ok I need to ask them ASAP. I plan on getting them a thank you gift.
Post # 4
@MrsMeowton: Also – I agree. Before I was engaged I loved pinterest… now I hate it.. lol!
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn
For my girls who are out of town, I called all of them to ask and for my local girls I asked them in person. I hadn’t even heard of Will You Be My Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts/cards/etc until Pinterest/Etsy (again, ugh!)
Post # 6
my mom made me these mini scrapbooks. it was pictures of me and girl i was “asking” and then some ugly bridesmaid dress pictures. i had a poem and at the end it said “will you be my bridesmaid/maid of honor?”
they loved them!!!
ETA: my mom is creative and already scrapbooks. she wanted to make them. if it were up to me, i would have just asked them in person.
Post # 7
@bourkelton: +1 I think they’re so uneccessary. I sent everyone a text. When my Maid/Matron of Honor asked me to be in her wedding she sent a pretty card in the shape of a girl in a dress (kind of like a paper doll) and I liked it, but it didn’t stop me from throwing it away a few days later.
Post # 8
@MrsMeowton: I had custom wine bottle labels made that said Cant say I do without you :will you be my maid?’ ( couldnt fit bridesmaid) then the wedding date. You can get free labels sent to you from wine companies
I put them on bottles of wine and gave them to my girls, they liked it! The wine was cheap though, 6 bottles adds up fast haha
Post # 9
@luluvohn: There are so many of those little things that go into a wedding, especially if you spend time on pinterest and weddingbee… all the things a bride is “supposed” to do can become very overwhelming. Are you doing wedding gifts for your mom, fiance or inlaws? I had never heard of this till I started getting on the bee.
Post # 10
I asked my girls in person. That was about the extent of it. I think “proposing” to your bridesmaids or Maid/Matron of Honor is just utterly stupid.
Post # 11
I made these and added a cute note to it. I found a ton of things on pintrest for ideas.
Will you help me tie the knot? was my theme so to speak.
I enjoyed doing it and it was inexpensive but I don’t think it’s a must do by any means.
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Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
I gave gift bags. I liked the box ideas, but I didn’t want to DIY them, I’m so not crafty and would not have been happy with the outcome.
I got all the girls rhinestone tank-tops that said Bridesmaid / Maid of Honor and for my maid of honor I also included a picture frame wtih a photo of the two of us after completing our first 1/2 marathon. I also got them these adorable cards from etsy. The gifts went over really well, and I thought it was a nice touch rather then just asking…
Post # 14
I did, but only because I made most of it myself and couldnt resist the actual gift! I made them cards that said “Something old, new, borrowed, blue.. Now all I’ll need is you! “Name” will you be my maid of honor/bridesmaid? Then I made bags to put their gift in. For the gift, I ordered tumblers with a dress sillouette and their monogram on the back from the etsy seller Palmettomonograms. I don’t have them yet or else I’d post a pic. I loved it, it’s simple and I ordered a bride one for myself too =)
Post # 15
I, like so many other brides, saw a lot of cute and over the top ideas on the web and pinterest but decided that I didn’t need to do anything spectacular, I just wanted to bring my bridemaids together and ask them to be by my side on my wedding day. So I invited them all over to my place on a Friday night. I made dinner, we had wine and cupcakes, it was nothing formal, just a evening with my sister and my best friends. I liked the idea of giving them cards that said “Will you be my bridesmaid?” so I found a free downloadable template on weddingchicks.com and printed them on nice card stock. I found small white boxes at Michael’s and filled them with some candy and a few macaroons. That’s it! It was fun and I also took the opportunity to talk to them about what I had in mind for dresses, jewelry etc. I am saving the gifts for the actual wedding day. Good luck!
Post # 16
I think they can be cute, but I’d want to ask them in person (or on the phone if that’s not possible) first. Being a bridesmaid can be a lot of work, and I’d want them to have the opportunity to gracefully bow out if they aren’t up for it. I do think the little gifts and cards are super adorable especially since they already know they’re in your wedding.