Post # 1
Hello all, I’m new to this forum and was just wondering if anyone else has ever been given a pre-engagement ring? My boyfriend gave me one on our two year anniversary around two days ago, as we’ve been talking about getting engaged but he would like to get officially engaged next year when he’s more financially settled and can afford a more expensive diamond ring and when we’ve moved into our new house. So for now he’s given me a beautiful cushion halo cubic zirconia ring in a sterling silver setting! So my question is, what should I think of this and what are your thoughts on it and if anyone has any pictures of their “before” engagement rings/promise rings?
Post # 2
This is my ring by the way!
Post # 3
It’s a beautiful ring! And I would come to a conclusion that it’s a promise ring that one day or in your case, next year… it’ll be replaced with an engagement ring 😀
Post # 4
I actually had two promise rings before getting engaged. One was a all black eternity band, he gave me that ring after we were together 3 momths, which sadly was bent on an accident, to replace that ring i got a pink quartz 3 stone ring for our 1 year anniversary. Now i have my round engagement ring after being together 2 years. I think promise rings are really cute if youre young, as long as the engagement ring is going to follow within the next couple years.
Post # 5
I think it depends on how old you are.
Post # 6
My BF has teased me that he’s going to get me a heart-shaped diamond ring (to him, the style he hates the most), so when we were on vacation, we saw a 3-stone heart cz ring at a vintage shop. It was $25 and he bought it for me. I’m now wearing it on my right hand until I get my real ring! It makes me smile every time I look at it, and it’s so sparkely, actually.
Post # 7
It depends a lot on your age. Since I am in my 30s and not enamored of the idea of a promise ring (seems too juvenile to be promising to get engaged but not actually be engaged), I would have told my BF to save the ring for later and give it to me when he’s really ready to be engaged.
Also, even if you like the concept of a promise ring, I think it’s a little odd if your promise ring looks exactly like an engagement ring, and if you wear it on your left ring finger. If you wear it there, and it looks like an engagement ring, people are going to assume you are engaged. Then you’ll have to keep explaining to them that no, you are not engaged yet.
If I were you, I would consider wearing it on the right hand, or have it sized to a different finger.
Post # 8
agree about the age thing.
I did have a “promise ring”. We actually thought of it as an engagement ring since we WERE serious and actually engaged (instead of promising to be engaged) but he couldn’t afford a “better”, “more proper” ring as he put it. We also had a really long engagement period, so it makes more sense in a way since he could save up over that period.
I told everyone we were engaged when I got my first ring. We decided over a conversation that we wanted to get married and bought that ring together. The second, “real” engagement ring he surprise proposed to me to make up for the lost romance that he wanted to do.
I like the look of stacked bands so we had decided we were going to stack the plainer promise ring (it’s a half eternity band) with the real engagement solitaire. 🙂
Post # 9
Your ring is lovely! I’ve never had a promise ring personally. But I would think this is cute if I was young. I’m mid twenties now, and I don’t think I’d be as enthused by a stand in ring.
Post # 10
I didn’t get a promise ring, but I got a placeholder ring. I was engaged but we were going to look at rings together after the proposal.
Post # 11
I feel like promise rings are typically seen in younger relationships. Personally I would not accept one now being in my 30’s. I also agree with PP that it is confusing to wear a ring that looks like an engagement ring on your ring finger. Why not just call it an engagement ring with plans to upgrade your ring in the future?
Post # 12
I only know of people in high school getting promise rings.
Post # 13
personally, I would be devastated if I had beeen given one. .
Post # 14
I was given a promise ring and wore it on my right hand. He gave it to me to show how seriously he took the relationship, but he wasn’t quite ready ask for my hand. He saw his parents go through a bad divorce and part of him was worried about getting hurt. He told me that the promise ring helped him to work through those fears. It was only 3-months later that he preposed!
Post # 15
I got a plain gold band 8 months before the proposal – it was actually a christmas gift that doubles as wedding band now.