Post # 1
has anyone else had a problem with Fiance picking GMs? Mr has changed his mind a few times but decided against his big brother due to the fact that he lives so far away so they have lost touch and he feels they dont know each other any more also because i have only meet him twice.
His friend that he is a Groomsmen for he didnt choose due to many small niggly things that im not getting involved with (i work with this friend after he was looking for a job and i was promoted i got him one)
Then he asked his best friend that he works with, which i think is a great choice, he has always been there if we needed a hand, always offered help, Fiance see’s him (outside work) at least every week ect
For his second Groomsmen he wants to ask his sisters boyfriend to begin with i didnt think too much of it, he is a nice guy (i have only meet him a handful of times at family events so never really spoken one on one with him) but as its been almost 9 months since we announced engagement Fiance still hasnt asked this man and im starting to think that for your Bridal Party dont you want the people that will be in your life forever, not someone you barely talk too or see ect
am i crazy
Post # 3
My husband too forever to pick and talk to his groomsmen. We were really casual and they didn’t have anything to other than on the day of the wedding, so it wasn’t too bad. I was kinda irriated though. I geneally tried to leave him be, though when deadlines approached (ie, the day his friends were leaving to fly to the wedding) I reminded him to give them the pertinemnt info. It all ended up coming together all right.
Post # 4
Nope you bring up good points but I would just leave it up to him. We talked about it but I’m not sure Fi even knows which friends he picking beyond our brothers. I just decided to leave to him and focus on my side of the bridal party.
Post # 5
@TwoCityBride: i think your right and im having a mini bridezilla moment. im just thinking/ read about a lot of people/ people telling me their experiences of bridal parties that they have nothing to do with anymore. in 10 years time i dont want to look at photos and have regret or whose that guy thoughts
Post # 6
any one else with sugestions?
Post # 7
yup and i’m sure we’re going to be dealing with it until next year. at first he wanted his best friend growing up but decided against it. we know he wants one of our close friends to be a Groomsmen and possibably Bridesmaid or Best Man but is a bit hessitant about asking because we’ve only seriously started hanging out with them this year. he asked a co-worker who he was good friends with and then the co-worker quite becuase of a bad joke gone wrong at work. so who knows…
Post # 8
Yeeeeah, Fiance basically has them all picked out in his mind, but he hasn’t asked any of them yet, and it has been 4 months since we were engaged! gaaaah.
Post # 10
I just found out (actually I had figured out who the Groomsmen were within a few months of us getting engaged) last night who FI’s Groomsmen are. We’ve been engaged since May of last year. We aren’t getting married until next August though, so I guess he just didn’t want to feel like he would change his mind.
The kicker is, I told him I didn’t need to know who they were, I just needed him to commit to a number (3 or 4) because its important to both of us to have an even number.
Post # 11
No, but we didn’t have such a long engagement. Your Fiance probably thinks the wedding is still more than a year away so what’s the rush.
Personally I would suggest to him to pick his brother if he’s unsure. His brother will always be there, and in my mind apart from the best man (who does a speech), the groomsmen’s only purpose is to wear a suit and escort a bridesmaid up the aisle.
Post # 12
@paula1248: i can see how most brides and groom might be like ‘whats the rush’ but we have been super organised. yes, ‘we’ he has been involved in every decision.