(Closed) has anyone else had a problem with FI picking GMs

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband too forever to pick and talk to his groomsmen. We were really casual and they didn’t have anything to other than on the day of the wedding, so it wasn’t too bad. I was kinda irriated though. I geneally tried to leave him be, though when deadlines approached (ie, the day his friends were leaving to fly to the wedding) I reminded him to give them the pertinemnt info. It all ended up coming together all right. 

Post # 4
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Nope you bring up good points but I would just leave it up to him. We talked about it but I’m not sure Fi even knows which friends he picking beyond our brothers. I just decided to leave to him and focus on my side of the bridal party.

Post # 7
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

yup and i’m sure we’re going to be dealing with it until next year. at first he wanted his best friend growing up but decided against it. we know he wants one of our close friends to be a Groomsmen and possibably Bridesmaid or Best Man but is a bit hessitant about asking because we’ve only seriously started hanging out with them this year. he asked a co-worker who he was good friends with and then the co-worker quite becuase of a bad joke gone wrong at work.  so who knows…

Post # 8
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yeeeeah, Fiance basically has them all picked out in his mind, but he hasn’t asked any of them yet, and it has been 4 months since we were engaged! gaaaah.

Post # 10
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just found out (actually I had figured out who the Groomsmen were within a few months of us getting engaged) last night who FI’s Groomsmen are. We’ve been engaged since May of last year. We aren’t getting married until next August though, so I guess he just didn’t want to feel like he would change his mind.

The kicker is, I told him I didn’t need to know who they were, I just needed him to commit to a number (3 or 4) because its important to both of us to have an even number.

Post # 11
7753 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, but we didn’t have such a long engagement. Your Fiance probably thinks the wedding is still more than a year away so what’s the rush.

Personally I would suggest to him to pick his brother if he’s unsure. His brother will always be there, and in my mind apart from the best man (who does a speech), the groomsmen’s only purpose is to wear a suit and escort a bridesmaid up the aisle.

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