(Closed) Has anyone else had a wedding in the middle of a semester?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My situation is a little different from yours but I figured I’d chime in.  I work a full time job and I go to school.  My classes are accelerated lasting a short 8 weeks. This means they are condensed and each come with a heavier than normal work load.  I take one class at a time as its all I can manage with my work schedule.  Two weeks ago we eloped so I took time off from work but I continued on with my class.  All is done online so I had to work hard to manageme my class work so that it wouldn’t completely interfere with our destination elopement.  I did a lot of work ahead of time.

I think you will know best what you can and cannot handle.  When balancing school with wedding planning it will just take extra time and consideration to ensure deadlines are met.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds unnecessarily stressful. What happens if it’s not so easy to handle and you don’t do well in your classes? Are you planning a large wedding? How much of the responsibility will your Fiance realistically be covering? Can you afford to hire a wedding planner? 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2018

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srae :  I am currently in law school full time and work part time and haven’t really had much trouble. The hardest part is I would so much rather be planning the wedding than doing my reading/studying so it takes a bit of self control. I think it can definitely be done and I wouldn’t let it stop you! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I personally think that it is unnecessarily stressful.  FH and I decided on a 2+ year engagement because we were also set on a date.  But I am also working on 2 masters degrees simultaneously, commuting from CT to Manhattan every day, and working nearly full time, so It’s a bit different

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I am working full time and studying part time with the wedding at the beginning of November. All I can say – it depends how well you can manage your time and how big is your wedding. My wedding a pretty small which makes it easier but I still have hard time studying when all I want to do is be on Pinterest or Etsy spooning for some ideas:)

if you are ok to wait another year, that might be a good option. But if you’d rather be married sooner then you can totally do that!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I definitely had more flexibility in my time while I was a student than now that I’m working, so I don’t see it being a problem. But I guess it depends on you and how much you study for each class.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My wedding was during my last semester of grad school over spring break.  I was also working full time.  You need to be really good at time management to be able to do everything, and make sure your Fiance is on board to help when things come up!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just because you have less credits didn’t actually mean you’ll be less stressed. My easiest/best time managed semester was when I had 19 credits and two jobs. What happens if your midterm exams fall that week? 

I think this largely depends on your time management and lack of procrastination skills as well as how much you’ll be able to count on your Fiance if you do get unexpectedly tied up.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

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srae :  I think it would be really stressful for you, but doable if that’s what you want to do!

A friend of mine got married in the middle of a semester and it was REALLY hard on her. She was so horribly stressed, I had never seen her like that before. It was to the point that it took away from her wedding, and she didn’t enjoy is as much as she could have. She told me that, looking back, she wished she would have handled things differently. Instead of giving 100% to school, and then 100% to the wedding, she gave 50% to both.

That beign said, my SIL also got married in the middle of a semester. I think she was stressed but it was normal amounts. Her husband (fiancé at the time) was finished school so he was able to take on a big load and help out a lot with the planning. She had a large team of helpers to plan the wedding, and it turned out great. The Monday after she went back to school to write a final exam and did just fine.

So I really think it depends on your personality, how big your load at school is, how complicated of a wedding your planning, how much help you have, etc!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I found school to be a lot less time consuming than working, personally. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

undergrad or grad?

I’m taking 12 credits of grad right now, on top of working full time. I’m set to graduate in December, so we pushed ours back a year to September of next year. 

It’s a personal choice. I personally don’t want to add more stress to one of my most important semesters of grad school AND a busy time at my full time career. So, we pushed it. In reality a year isn’t going to make a huge difference and it will give you more time to plan/save/relax. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

One thing to consider is if you need to be married by age 26 to be covered under health insurance from one of your jobs?   In that case, I would not delay.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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srae :  I got married toward the end of my second semester of grad school (very end of April) and my husband defended his dissertation the day before we flew down to our destination for the wedding (4 days before the wedding). I only missed one assignment! lol I think it really depends on how elaborate your plans are and how much you can handle ahead of time. If you know you’re able to balance and manage competing priorities then you’ll be fine! Happy planning 🙂 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Doesn’t sound that bad.  I was working full time and doing 2 classes for my masters while planning.  We happen to schedule the wedding for July right after school ended so that we could do a honeymoon.  But the “hardest” part of the wedding imo wasn’t when it actually close to when it happened, rather the decisions and bookings required for it which should all be done well before the event date.  I think you could plan it most in the summer and be just fine. 

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