(Closed) Has anyone else's parents given them a hard time for wanting to move out?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

No but I am 28 so I guess they wouldnt care. How old are you? I assume it’s your first time moving out? Have they expressed why they are upset?

Post # 5
730 posts
Busy bee

I moved out at 22 and felt kinda bad because it was like I was hanging my mom out to dry with the bills, but I knew I couldn’t live at home forever just because of that. She ended up renting out my room though so she was fine.

Post # 6
1814 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I guess I got lucky because I moved out when I left for college at 18, so that was an “acceptable” time to move out that my parents couldn’t protest. Sorry your mom is being so clingy. You are right, though, at 21 you are perfectly within reason to move out at go on with your adult life.

Post # 7
9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You and I are living the same life, sister.


I started dating my husband when I was 25, we dated three months and I decided I was moving in with him. He lived in Oklahoma and was stationed in the Navy. I lived in California.


My mother began trying to talk me out of it. Bribes, begging, guilt trips (She’s really good at this one), the works. My father was happy to see me go, he felt every little bird needed to spread their wings eventually (Although now he is an absolute wreck and misses me terribly) but my mother refused to let me go.


My husband came back home to California (We’re both California natives) to pick up some stuff from his parent’s house and we drove back to Oklahoma in a uhaul. My mother, up until we were on the freeway home, was trying to get me to stay. I heard, “Are you sure you want to do this?” More times than there are stars in the universe.




Both of my elder brothers live at home — One is 38, one is 40. I am the youngest and the only girl, and my mother was NOT letting me leave without a fight.




I have no advice for you other than to stick to your guns if this is something you want.

ETA: My mother told me on my wedding day that if I ever needed to come home, she’d go out and buy a bed for me. She also tried to give me “Emergency flight money” so I could “sneak back home” If I needed.

Post # 8
1540 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@sunshinewish15:  my Fiance had the same issue. We moved in at 21 as well. It honestly took a good 2 years for her to be okay with it. We go there every Sunday for dinner, and whenever he used to say something along the lines of “we’re going home” she’d make a comment about how their place was his home. I think it was hard for her to see him growing up. He also has an older brother who is 29 and still living at home as well.

Now it’s been 4 years, and she’s fine with it. We just got engaged, and I was worried that she would be weird about it or try and say we rushed things, but she was totally happy for us.

I think you just have to do it and hope that time will settle things down



Post # 9
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Hmm… I moved out at 19 when I bought a condo. My mom wasn’t thrilled, I think she didn’t like that she was losing the control aspect of my life and knowing everything I’m doing and when I’m doing it. But I was an adult so I didn’t really care.

ETA: Ok, I *thought* I was an adult, and it wasn’t that I didn’t care about my mom getting upset, I just figured that everyone has to move out at some point and this was my time. She was actually totally fine after I moved out.




Post # 10
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

When I decided to move in with Darling Husband, it was right after we got engaged. I was 25, with a good job and stable finances. My parents were not pleased, but at the same time they knew they couldn’t stop me. They made me tell my Grandmother in person. “Hey Grandma, I’m gonna go live in sin, kay?!” It was not fun.

Post # 11
1222 posts
Bumble bee

@sunshinewish15:   I’m having a bit of the same issue. SO and I are planning on moving out in a couple of years. The closest college that offers my major is a 45-60 minute drive away and since I don’t have a car, I can’t do the commute. But I’m staying at my current college to try to leech every class I possibly can out of my scholarship first.

Everytime moving is brought up, my mom tells me I’m not going and bursts into tears. She’s trying to get my dad to buy me a car so I can just commute back and forth (which I really don’t want to do). She’s done some pretty crazy sh*t in the past and I’m terrified she’ll go off the deep end when I go to leave, like starting some crap with SO and trying to have him arrested (he’ll be paying the bills, so if he can’t go, I can’t). I’m the youngest girl and the baby wayy behind my siblings. Doesn’t help that my brother is 31 and still tries to live at home every chance he gets and my sister lives just right across the street. So no, you’re not the only one lol.

Post # 12
2778 posts
Sugar bee

@sunshinewish15:  I moved back home right before I had my daughter almost two years ago. When I told my parents about six months ago that I was moving out to live with my boyfriend, they were really upset and tried to guilt me into staying. I think most of it was that they didnt want grandbaby leaving them…they still try to make me feel bad about it and we’ve been for gone for two months already.

Post # 14
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My parents were a little sad when I officially moved out.  I actually moved away when I was 18 and went to college, but my stuff was there until I was 21 and moved away for good.  I think they were particularly sad because we had had a bit of a falling out and that was why I was moving… However, they were supportive of me starting my own life.  I moved across the state from them when I graduated college at age 22, and they were a little sad then too.  But overall, my parents knew I was going to move away practically the minute I turned 18 because I was a very independent teenager.  

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