(Closed) Has anyone ever been through this? Emotional wreck.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m sorry your dress didn’t work out, but is this REALLY worth this kind of reaction? You just married the love of your life, right? Everyone had a great time, and you got to marry the person you love. I think some major perspective is needed here. Allot yourself an extended time to cry about the dress (like 3 more days tops), and then it’s time to shelve it and focus on your happy marriage, because isn’t that really what matters in the end?

If this continues (not leaving the house), you might consider speaking to a professional.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I’m sorry you’re feeling crummy.  I can’t share an experience, as I still have a few months to go.  Have you talked with your husband about this?  Sometimes when I feel like crap about something, I can talk to my Fiance and somehow things just seem better.  I feel bad that you’re so focused on what you didn’t enjoy on your wedding day, instead of being excited about your new marriage.  I really hope there are some experienced brides that can offer you some wisdom. Take care of yourself! 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

What happened with your dress? Maybe it’s not as bad as you think and you’re just making it bigger in your head? I’m sorry you’re feeling this way but it’s done and in the past, you married the love of your life and it’s time to enjoy that and not miss the beginning of your marriage by focusing on something in the past. You can’t undo it so you have to accept it as is and move forward.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe can you explain what you mean by “wardrobe malfunctions”, what exactly went so wrong with your dress?

 

And I have to agree with @KatyElle, you still married the man of your dreams. A dress malfunction should be no reason for ongoing depression and comfort eating. Are you sure there isn’t something else going on or something else you’re upset about??

Post # 7
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@KatyElle:  ditto.

 

If the 2nd dress was such a problem…..why didn’t you just change back to the original one?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry to hear you are having such a tough time. There is probably nothing I can say to make you feel better.

I will say that I know how it feels to feel uncomfortable in your own skin to the point that nobodie’s words of praise will convince you otherwise. And so I think that beyond feeling your dress was all wrong, it may have been a problem with your self-image (as you referenced later in your post). 

I’m not going to get all preachy, that’s unfair to you. You know that your wedding is the beginning of a life with your new husband. Have you spoken to him about this? I hope he can make you feel better, convince you that you are beautiful. It’s not all up to him, obviously, and he won’t fix things. But I hope he’s being supportive and that you feel you can confide in him.

I know you’ll probably get lots of comments that you may wish to speak to someone about this kind of thing, and I also agree with this, but of course it’s tough. You’re brave for airing it out. I hope it has given you some comfort to even write about it in such a brutally honest way.

I hope you find peace with yourself and can look back at your wedding with joy one day. Hugs.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The day has passed. I don’t see how any good can come from you dwelling on the negitives. I would sit down and write all of the good things about your wedding. This list should be the thing you remember and focus on. Talk to your husband about how your feeling, Share the good photos and memories with your family and friends. Don’t suffer alone, cause you don’t have to. Big hugs. Just remember you married the love of your life.

Post # 10
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I thought the same thing.

Post # 12
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@marilu2233:  Glad the bee has helped you.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

if the wrong dress makes you hide 80 percent of the night in an event you spent years planning, it ain’t about the dress.  you either have same major anxiety issues you need to get a grip on .  I would hate to see what happens when somethiing really major happens to you.  I mean this in a nice way.

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