Has anyone ever done a complete vegetarian/vegan menu?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
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Bumble Beekeeper

Best bet is to look at bringing in your own caterer. And yes you will get push back from fam/friends/the bee.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our Synagague kitchen is dairy only. Meat was not an option. Made things easy.

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Busy bee

I wouldn’t recommend it, but you know your circle best. Off the top of my head I have at least 5-10 people in my family who wouldn’t eat really anything (maybe bread) if it was all vegetarian. They would order pizza or something instead.

Just because you are vegetarian doesn’t mean you should push it on everyone else. I had seafood at my wedding and I hate seafood; but I live on the west coast and know that my guests would LOVE fresh seafood. You want your guests to be happy and have a good time; not eating food they wont like. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m sure there was someone on the bee a few months ago who had a vegetarian wedding, and had a high decline rate from non-veggie friends and family. Whilst I’d be really open to going to a vegetarian wedding, it depends on your crowd. My fi’s dad is one of those “it’s not a meal if there’s no meat” type people, he’d be really disappointed if all our options had been vegetarian.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

OP, there is nothing wrong with a vegetarian/vegan menu as long as the food is tasty and well-prepared, but I would recommend avoiding some of the less widely known ingredients. People don’t like eating things they can’t identify.  People can live without meat for a night. 

 

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kimmacph :  “Just because you are vegetarian doesn’t mean you should push it on everyone else. I had seafood at my wedding and I hate seafood; but I live on the west coast and know that my guests would LOVE fresh seafood. You want your guests to be happy and have a good time; not eating food they wont like. “

This isnt the same thing, though. Many people choose a vegetarian/vegan diet because they are morally opposed to killing animals for food.  They should not have to compromise their morals in order to feed their guests.  You disliking seafood is a matter of taste, not an ethical one.  

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Agree with PP, only do this if you know your crowd. I used to be vegetarian, so I wouldn’t care and I also think it would be a silly reason to decline a wedding just because of what food you decide to serve me.

I’ve been to weddings where they served meat/fish/veggie options and no one liked it, so meat doesn’t mean crowd pleaser. If you’re set on doing this just make sure you have a really great caterer, I think people would be surprised with how many amazing meals you can make that are vegetarian. 

 

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Sugar bee

kimmacph :  That’s a false equivalency. It is NOT the same as serving any other dish you don’t like but know your guests would. This is about an an ethical decision to support an industry you don’t believe in. I’m guessing if you didn’t eat seafood for religious reasons–rather than simply a dislike–you wouldn’t serve it to your guests, either. 

I think it’s perfectly fine to have a vegetarian menu. It’s consistent with both of your beliefs, so why wouldn’t you? Your guests will be able to survive without meat for one meal, and there is tons of crowd-pleasing vegetarian fare. Vegetarian food doesn’t have to mean tofu steak and lentil loaf; most omnivores eat plenty of vegetarian meals without thinking about it, and a good caterer should be able to pull off a wonderful menu of “accidentally vegetarian” food.

My preference would have been to have a 100% vegetarian/vegan wedding. But my husband isn’t vegetarian, and he felt that his family would be disappointed if there wasn’t at least some meat. Since he’s not a vegetarian and we wanted the wedding to represent both of us, we compromised and did a mostly vegetarian wedding, but we did include a chicken dish in our buffet to appease the meat eaters. Everything aside from the chicken was vegetarian, and it worked for us. 

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Sugar bee

Personally I wouldn’t mind a vegetarian menu at all, but just keep in mind that you’re likely to get a lot of push back from your guests. There are a lot of people that don’t really consider it a meal if there isn’t meat (I used to be a vegetarian and heard it all the time lol) 

If you do decide to go with it though I’d try to find a caterer that specializes in it, or at least has a super varied menu. Vegetarian food is not typical event-fare so if you choose a standard caterer you’ll likely just end up with some very boring pasta or soggy eggplant dishes. 

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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think it’s highly unlikely that there is anyone who never has a meal without meat so they will survive one night. Make it hearty and familiar so that people don’t even notice there isn’t meat. I’ll happily eat vegetarian lasagna, salad, and dinner rolls all day long and I’m definitely a meat lover. Throw tofu, tempeh, or seitan in front of me and I’m going to fill up on cake instead. 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Home

I think that on your wedding day when you are providing food for your guests you have the right to choose a menu that reflects your personal belief system and diet. It’s not forcing it on others because they can choose not to attend if they are that upset about it, although I think that would be a petty and imature reason not to attend a wedding, can these people seriously hate vegetables that much? 

I think there is a lot of ignorance amoung meat eaters when it comes to the vegetarian/vegen lifestyle…

All that being said I personally do not eat meat but my FH does so we will be having both options at our wedding. If we both didn’t eat meat I would personally feel bad not offering a meat option because my dad absolutely loves to eat meat and really does hardly eat anything else and I want him to be able to enjoy his meal on my wedding day. I guess it depends on your family and who you are willing to bend your morals to accommodate for. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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beebee147 :  Girl, this wedding is about YOU TWO. Your wedding is an expression of your 1)commitment to each other, 2)your combined personalities as a couple and 3)maybe honoring those who have supported your relationship up to this point

Screw everyone that is questioning your diet. Vegan weddings are uniquely lovely and if you’re shooting for an ethical wedding, what a great opportunity for exposure to your lifestyle!

You’ll have to do some extra research to find the right caterer, but they exist. If people seriously have an issue eating only plants for a single meal in their lives, then they have no business attending your wedding.

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