(Closed) Has anyone ever done this, and what was the outcome?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not into the.honeymoon registry trend. I won’t go as far as to say its tacky but I wouldn’t do it and wouldn’t buy anything for a honeyMoon registry. 

Post # 5
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Especially with you having a store registry as well, I would skip the honeymoon registry.   If you want excursions, massages, etc., use the cash received for your wedding toward those things instead.

Post # 6
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2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We have a honeyfund, with a small traditional registry for a few house items. I’ve gotten compliments from our guests so far who thought it was neat.  Others have given us cash or check.  

No big deal, I’m not concerned if others aren’t on board.  It’s my wedding, I’m registered for things I want.  Why should I register for a carload of items I already have or don’t need?  If they don’t want to use it, they won’t.  Gifts are not the object of getting married, material or honeymoon-related.

Post # 8
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2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I started one, but then I wussed out. Younger folks really liked the idea, and I didn’t hear from anyone else. Instead, I made small typical registry. Many folks “took the hint” and gave cash anyway, so… nothing lost there. Something I didn’t like about the fund sites was tha credit card processing fee… I just hate paying for stuff that I feel should be included. No, in fact this service is not free– you’re still taking money from us! …maybe that’s just me!

Post # 9
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I guess in theory it is a great idea if you feel that your guests would be hip to this new trend.

The problem I have with it is you don’t have any way of guaranteeing that the guest recieves your gift…an issue that occurred for a few of my friends. One was gifted a snorkeling excursion and despite being pre-paid was told that it wasn’t and they ended up paying on their own. The hotel got two payments for one excursion. Another friend told me that her honeymoon registery took a percentage of every monetary amount as their fee so that she ended up having to pay a portion of each gift out of pocket.

Wasn’t there a fellow bee that was to recieve something via this type of thing and never got what was purchased?

 

Post # 10
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 @meraklu:  “This is for my shower though.. does that change your opinion?”

If you know that your shower is going to be a mostly younger crowd who wouldn’t be offended by the lack of a “gift-opening” (because let’s get real…you can’t really “open” mai-tais on the beach), then go for it.

But if your shower will include a lot of aunts, moms, grandmas, etc…you’re going to ruffle some serious feathers with this.  It’s really not appropriate to gift cash at a shower. 

If I were you, I’d err on the side of caution and register for more traditional shower items.  If you’re dead-set on the honeymoon registry…save it for the wedding where it’s appropriate for guests to gift cash.

Post # 11
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know people who have done it, but everyone though it was less than classy and no one actually contributed to their honeymoon fund. people dont feel like it is their responsibility as guests to fund your honeymoon.

Post # 12
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1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t love it.  I know it’s done more now…. but I’m not a fan.  It feels awkward to me.

Post # 13
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2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@meraklu:  My shower was 2 weeks ago in Virginia.  I live in Chicago.  My Maid/Matron of Honor wrote this short and sweet insert to the invite, and included links to our three online registries (Target, Amazon and Honeyfund):  

If you were thinking of a gift
To help Bride on her way

A gift card or cash toward a house
Would really make her day.

However, if you’d like to purchase something,
Please, make it small;
Richmond to Chicago is quite a long haul!

Most of the attendees gifted cash or gift cards, and I received two honeyfund items.  I received a few material gifts, which I returned in Virginia and rebought once I got home, as I could not travel with them on the plane.  Some chose to ship items directly to us here in Chicago.  No one complained or said anything to me or Maid/Matron of Honor about the registries.  We will use the same registries for our wedding and have them listed on our wedding website.

And, for what it’s worth, my shower was attended by 5 friends between the ages of 28-31, my sister who is 37, several aunts and my mother who are all around 60, and my 77 year old grandmother.

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