Post # 1
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408 posts
Helper bee
Hey gals-
My fiance’s younger brother passed away a year ago this past April. He would have been his best man in our wedding, we are going to leave a spot for him and in his place I was thinking of having a memorial candle or something. Does anyone have any ideas? This is going to be a very emotional wedding, all my grandparents have passed away and I will wish that they could have seen me get married, but they got to experience lots of life. My fiance’s brother did not so it is really hard for all of us. I will have to put on double coats of waterproof mascara for that special day. Sorry for blabbing away!
Post # 3
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92 posts
Worker bee
We are going to have a table set up at the reception with pictures of all of those who will be "unable to be with us, but are joining us in spirit." My uncle passed away this month, and my Fiance had two uncles pass away this year, so I know what you mean. We will also have photos of grandparents, and my mom, who passed away when I was really little.
I have seen people light a candle during the ceremony in rememberance of those who had passed away. I have also seen people put a note in the program that says something to the effect of:
"The candles used during the ceremony burn in memory of all those who are unable to be with us on this special day."
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I am so sorry for your FH loss.
My friend had a memorial candle. She lit the candle in memory of her father- and once the ceremony was complete, they moved the candle to the recption hall and left it burning for the rest of the evening on a small table with photos of her and him during periods throughout her childhood.
It’s been done at countless weddings. Go ahead and do it, it can be very tastfully done.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
We made a memory candle for my cousin who passe away just months before our wedding. We mentioned that the candle was lit in memory of my cousin in the program. We later gave the candle to my aunt and uncle – it still sits on their bedroom dresser. There is a picture of our memory candle on our Married Bio website under the "Details" photo gallery: HERE
Anything you do will be a nice gesture for him and his family.
I’m so sorry for your loss.