(Closed) Has anyone ever made rude remarks about the size of your ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Has anyone ever made rude remarks about the size of your ring?
    Nope, no one has ever said anything. : (106 votes)
    32 %
    Yes, people comment on how big it is but just stop at that! : (72 votes)
    22 %
    Yes, people comment on how small it is but that is all. : (29 votes)
    9 %
    Yes, people have asked me what carat weight it is. : (54 votes)
    17 %
    Yes, people have asked me how much it costs. : (32 votes)
    10 %
    No, but people have said stuff about it behind my back. : (9 votes)
    3 %
    Yes, people asked where we purchased the ring. : (25 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    198 posts
    Blushing bee

    @Paiger8:   I have a 0.4 carat stone, which has always been more than enough for me but I know is comparatively small compared to many other ladies’. One time when I was at uni a particularly charming girl demanded to see it, brought my hand up to her face and said, ”You need a microscope to even see that!” Lol I’ve shared this story on the Bee before, I have no shame ha ha! I love our stone and wouldnt change it for the world. That comment, when I realised that yes, someone actually could be that rude to my face, was upsetting, but afterwards it just made me angry. I think every person is individual and has individual choices, and a polite person would just respect that. So go ahead and rock your stone, but if people do make comments, then F them, its yours so be proud!

    Post # 4
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Many of my co-workers asked about the carat weight the most hilarious incident was when i found out that one of my particularly nosey coworker was trying to find out the brand of my ring to determine the exact cost. Probably to compare it to her own when she will have one (she is still not engaged). I genuinly pity people like this, why don’t they relize that e-ring as well as everything connected to the relationship, is very personal, and should not be judged.

    Post # 5
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I love big stones too. I wanted to go with a coloured stone so I wouldn’t get the silly comments but at the time we both fell in love with a white sapphire ring. It was 7mm stone in an elaborate diamond setting. I’ve had people ask about carat weight which I would just tell them and leave it that. Or if they commented how huge it was, I just smiled and said “I love it, fits my finger so well” and moved on to something different 😉 Nobody has been rude enough to ask how much it was. Eventually the comments taper off. Get what you love!

    I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that it was sapphire, she would never judge me. She loved it!

    One of my bridesmaids was so jealous that she almost cried. I wanted to tell her, relax it’s a sapphire but somehow I thought maybe she deserves to suffer for a bit, lol. She’s gotten so materialistic lately that I couldn’t even have a conversation about anything other than estates and Gucci with her. To each their own 🙂

    I now have a 7.5mm moissanite and since it’s been a while since the wedding not many people noticed I changed the setting and got a bigger stone.

    Post # 6
    5073 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have a 1.5 ct Asha.  No one has ever said anything other than they liked it.   

    Post # 7
    3254 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Just a rude relative of DH’s who commented on it being “f****** small” when she was drunk. Then again, my .5 carat probably does look small next to the giant bauble she has on her finger. haha. Otherwise people have been nothing but kind. I’ve never understood criticizing others’ rings!

    Post # 8
    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly, the where you bought it/how much it cost info is no one’s business. SO don’t even worry about it! Get the ring YOU want!

    Post # 9
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Yes, people have made less than polite comments about it. It bothers me a little just because it’s so rude and I would NEVER say those things about someone else’s ring, but at the end of the day I’m the one who has to like it so I just kind of ignore them.

    Post # 10
    11166 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I get comments, both positive and passive agressive, on a regular basis.

    The other day a lady told me that my Darling Husband could have and I quote “bought a house instead of getting you that thing. He must REALLY love you.” I didn’t like the implication that he loves me because he bought such a large ring and that a smaller ring would have mean he didn’t. That is not something you say out loud.

    People have asked how much it cost and I usually just change the subject or say “enough.”

    Post # 12
    3981 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Nobody has ever said anything rude or negaive about my ring. I have only heard people tell me how much they love it or how pretty they think it is. If they had rude thoughts, the have kept them to themselves. And I appreciate that.

    Post # 14
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No one has ever said anything rude, but the OMG that’s huge comments are def awkward.  Get what you love – let the haters hate!  No one (outside of close family/friends) have asked me how big it is, but I had a coworker try to sneak it out of me.  She kept saying how they must cut diamonds differently now since mine looks too big to be a carat – um duh lady that’s because it is bigger than a carat!  When I said I don’t think they cut rings to make them look bigger now, my ring is just bigger, she said oh well how big is it?  It was definitely odd.  


    My nosy mother asks how much it cost (I guess she sort of can) but I just told her I don’t know and it’s none of her business anyways


    Go for the big bling if that’s what you love – you won’t regret it! 🙂

    Post # 15
    659 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    What a lot of people don’t realize is that just because a stone is big, it doesn’t mean it cost a ton.  It could be poorly cut or lack in color/clarity…..

    Post # 16
    11166 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @Paiger8:  I think it is something that just slips out possibly? I have had strangers and family members both ask this question…and it is always awkward.

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