Post # 1
I’m just wondering, because I’m going with a Moissanite, my stone will be a bit larger than my circle of aquaintences, 1.5 ct. I’ve debated and debated about going smaller to make it stand out less, but I love big rings, so that’s what I’m going to get. Other people be damned.
I’m just wondering, has anyone said anything rude about the size of your e-ring? Said it was too big, too small, asked how big it was (in person, on WB so does not count) or asked how much it cost? Has any family/friends been particularly nosey?
What do you say to that?
Post # 3
@Paiger8: I have a 0.4 carat stone, which has always been more than enough for me but I know is comparatively small compared to many other ladies’. One time when I was at uni a particularly charming girl demanded to see it, brought my hand up to her face and said, ”You need a microscope to even see that!” Lol I’ve shared this story on the Bee before, I have no shame ha ha! I love our stone and wouldnt change it for the world. That comment, when I realised that yes, someone actually could be that rude to my face, was upsetting, but afterwards it just made me angry. I think every person is individual and has individual choices, and a polite person would just respect that. So go ahead and rock your stone, but if people do make comments, then F them, its yours so be proud!
Post # 4
Many of my co-workers asked about the carat weight the most hilarious incident was when i found out that one of my particularly nosey coworker was trying to find out the brand of my ring to determine the exact cost. Probably to compare it to her own when she will have one (she is still not engaged). I genuinly pity people like this, why don’t they relize that e-ring as well as everything connected to the relationship, is very personal, and should not be judged.
Post # 5
I love big stones too. I wanted to go with a coloured stone so I wouldn’t get the silly comments but at the time we both fell in love with a white sapphire ring. It was 7mm stone in an elaborate diamond setting. I’ve had people ask about carat weight which I would just tell them and leave it that. Or if they commented how huge it was, I just smiled and said “I love it, fits my finger so well” and moved on to something different 😉 Nobody has been rude enough to ask how much it was. Eventually the comments taper off. Get what you love!
I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that it was sapphire, she would never judge me. She loved it!
One of my bridesmaids was so jealous that she almost cried. I wanted to tell her, relax it’s a sapphire but somehow I thought maybe she deserves to suffer for a bit, lol. She’s gotten so materialistic lately that I couldn’t even have a conversation about anything other than estates and Gucci with her. To each their own 🙂
I now have a 7.5mm moissanite and since it’s been a while since the wedding not many people noticed I changed the setting and got a bigger stone.
Post # 6
I have a 1.5 ct Asha. No one has ever said anything other than they liked it.
Post # 7
Just a rude relative of DH’s who commented on it being “f****** small” when she was drunk. Then again, my .5 carat probably does look small next to the giant bauble she has on her finger. haha. Otherwise people have been nothing but kind. I’ve never understood criticizing others’ rings!
Post # 8
Honestly, the where you bought it/how much it cost info is no one’s business. SO don’t even worry about it! Get the ring YOU want!
Post # 9
Yes, people have made less than polite comments about it. It bothers me a little just because it’s so rude and I would NEVER say those things about someone else’s ring, but at the end of the day I’m the one who has to like it so I just kind of ignore them.
Post # 10
I get comments, both positive and passive agressive, on a regular basis.
The other day a lady told me that my Darling Husband could have and I quote “bought a house instead of getting you that thing. He must REALLY love you.” I didn’t like the implication that he loves me because he bought such a large ring and that a smaller ring would have mean he didn’t. That is not something you say out loud.
People have asked how much it cost and I usually just change the subject or say “enough.”
Post # 11
This is my dear mother’s take on it, when I emailed her about what size I want and worrying about rude people: ” I would get the 1.5 because that is what you really want and there is very little difference in cost. There are stupid people that will ask how big it is but, you don’t have to answer specifically you can just say things like: ” Yes, he loves me that much” or “Yes, it is lovely, I never thought I would get over a carat” “Uh, it is a little over a carat. My husband did such a good job” etc etc. They just look stupid when the pry. Like it is any of their business. And it is nice to be able to say that I don’t really know exactly what it cost because then it puts you in a good position of ‘not lying’. Plus it just gets complicated if you would try to explain beyond “Yes, I love it. I never dreamed I would have a ring this beautiful!” “
Post # 12
Nobody has ever said anything rude or negaive about my ring. I have only heard people tell me how much they love it or how pretty they think it is. If they had rude thoughts, the have kept them to themselves. And I appreciate that.
Post # 13
People who answered that they’ve been asked how much it cost, WHO THE F DOES THAT? Holy cow, I just put that on there on a whim, I didn’t imagine anyone had actually been asked how much their ring cost.
Post # 14
No one has ever said anything rude, but the OMG that’s huge comments are def awkward. Get what you love – let the haters hate! No one (outside of close family/friends) have asked me how big it is, but I had a coworker try to sneak it out of me. She kept saying how they must cut diamonds differently now since mine looks too big to be a carat – um duh lady that’s because it is bigger than a carat! When I said I don’t think they cut rings to make them look bigger now, my ring is just bigger, she said oh well how big is it? It was definitely odd.
My nosy mother asks how much it cost (I guess she sort of can) but I just told her I don’t know and it’s none of her business anyways
Go for the big bling if that’s what you love – you won’t regret it! 🙂
Post # 15
What a lot of people don’t realize is that just because a stone is big, it doesn’t mean it cost a ton. It could be poorly cut or lack in color/clarity…..
Post # 16
@Paiger8: I think it is something that just slips out possibly? I have had strangers and family members both ask this question…and it is always awkward.