Post # 1
I really dread sitting down and putting one of these thigns together. Honestly, i feel like everyone in attendance gets along fine and is an adult so I don’t really see the point in having a seating chart. But, i was wondering if anyone out (whos already been-there-done-that) has opted out of the seating chart? How did it go? Would you make one if you could do it over again? Thanks bees
Post # 3
we’re not having a seating chart, i don’t see why it would be needed. my husband’s parents will have to sit seperated, but other than that, there’s no big deal about where people sit.
Post # 4
I’m not doing one, but I’m not married yet. But I see it the same way you do, everyone gets along for the most part (and if they don’t, they don’t show it) and it’s just my family and close friends. I don’t see a point in a seating chart.
The last 2 weddings I’ve been too didn’t have seating charts, and everything worked out fine. Everyone liked the fact that they could sit where they wanted.
Post # 5
@SouthernGirl:im glad youve been to a reception sans seating chart and seen it successfully done. My wedding experience is limited so i’ve only been to ones with seating charts and all my books and wedding magazines stress that you HAVE to have one. I actually feel like its silly to tell adults where they have to sit. And if someone doesnt like another person, they don’t have to sit with them : )
Post # 6
We did not do a seating chart for our reception. But we also did NOT have a sit-down dinner. We had stations. We also had different size tables, etc so everyone ate at their own pace and when they wanted to. It worked out just fine.
We did, however, reserve 4 tables for family. But that was it!
Post # 7
I can understand why maybe for smaller weddings or something it wouldn’t be a big deal. However, I just have to mention when I went to my cousin’s wedding years ago and they didn’t do one, it was really aggravating that by the time we got there, we couldn’t all sit together as a family since we had to stay behind for pictures. Since we don’t all see each other that often due to long distance, it was definitely upsetting that a table wasn’t reserved for family only – especially since we didn’t know anyone else aside from our relations.
Post # 8
I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding in my region with a seating chart (all were also buffet-style). That said, I’m doing a table only chart to at least give some guidance to my guests. I think the open seating works fine for 85% of guests, but can be a bit awkward for the other 15%.
Post # 9
I like thoughtful seating charts because, as a hostess, putting a little thought into where your guests sit can really make a difference as to how their evening goes. If I have a dinner party where the guests don’t know each other well, I love being able to strategically place them around the table to help spark interesting conversations.
I think seating charts are particularly important if you ony have EXACTLY the right number of chairs/table settings, if you are doing a lengthy sit down dinner, or if you have a lot of people who really SHOULDN’T sit together. (this is the case for our wedding…so seating chart here I come )
If you don’t do a seating chart, I think the way stephinPA did it is probably a good way. If you can’t vary your table sizes, can you at least make sure there are extra chairs and place settings in the room? That way the last two people to sit down have some options.
Post # 10
My friend had a 300 person wedding with no seating chart. She reserved 5 tables for VIP’s, wedding party, parents, grandparents, and a kids table that had coloring books and stuff on it. It was a non-issue. Went over well although it did take a lot longer for people to get a seat so she ran about 45 minutes late on everything.
They obviously did a buffet as well since a venue wouldn’t do a seated dinner that way.
Post # 11
i personally think seating charts are great but i really like thriftybrides idea, My Future Sister-In-Law did this, we didnt have an exact seat persay but we did have a table and then we could choose where to sit at that table, i think its good to have some guidence that way people arent standing around and actually sit down and watch the dances, etc. I’ve been to a wedding where there was no seating chart and people were up and walking around and talking during the dances and speeches, i felt bad for the bride and groom because no one was really paying attention they were up socializing, which is what you want but after all the important moments are done. but that is just one experience.
Post # 12
@pvaultingirl: We didn’t do one and it turned out great. Everyone got to sit with people of their own choosing and could mingle around if they wanted too. We had more than enough seats for everyone and also did a heavy hors d’ oeuvres / stations for about 90 people. I think it worked out much better than if we’d done a seating chart.
Post # 13
We didn’t have a seating chart. However, we did reserve tables for those who had to stay at church for pictures, etc. We had the head table, and then 3 other tables with reserved signs on them, one for parents/grandparents, and the other 2 for those who were at the church with us. All worked out perfectly.
Post # 14
I’ve been to weddings with and without. And I used to be very anti-seating chart because I thought I should get to sit where I want. But now as a guest I much prefer having a seating chart. That way I don’t have to worry about getting to the reception early to save a seat so I can sit together with my family or friends. I also just like how much though and detail it shows the couple put in.
Post # 15
In my region it’s very common to not have a seating chart, but for the timing reason mwitter80 mentioned I’m now thinking about it. I’ve never been to a wedding where there’s been a seating chart, but I agree…guests get there early then an rush to ‘claim a table’ so they can sit by each other, eliminating the mixing/mingling of a cocktail hour. So I’m leaning towards the “here’s your table, pick your seat” kind of chart.
Post # 16
@lisa105: Did you have seating for all of your guests? I am doing the same type of reception and I am still not sure what exactly the logistics will be.