I cancelled my wedding with 129 days left to go. I just undid my entire wedding yesterday. We did it because my dad has 3-5 months to live and the wedding was in 4 months. I couldn’t handle if my dad died anytime soon, let alone near my wedding.
We plan to get married just the two of us later this year, and make it our honeymoon. It will be really special.
However, we were very lucky to be before the 120 day cut off for the venue. So we got all of our money back from that. The officiant didn’t require payment up front. The photographer does have a non-refundable deposit, but I figure we’ll still use her for engagements and bridal shots, even though we’ll probably elope out of the US. I was in the middle of reseraching cakes and flowers so nothing was actually put down on those yet.
No one purchsed airline tickets yet, but those that reserved hotels can get a refund.
Honestly, hotel rooms can be refunded. I’m sure most hotels will give you a refund with more than 30 days notice. Airfare? I once cancelled a ticket with Southwest.com and I was not out any money. They gave me a credit to be applied to my next ticket. I fly often so it was of no loss to me.
What I’m saying is that it’s not a total loss or completely undoable! How many guests would be flying in? How much in deposits will you be out? Is there anything inside you that would regret not having a wedding event? I personally won’t regret not having it, but since I didn’t have any wedding the first time I got married, I kind of thought I should go through it. Not a good enough reason to go through I think!
My family is not into weddings, they have too much going on with their own lives. I think everyone is so grateful that we’re not having a wedding for them to attend. When peple say “the wedding is for families” or “my family would be devastated if we eloped,” I simply cannot comprehend. My family is so different. My family could care less. They are a bunch of crazies and I don’t think I want them all in one place anyway! Better to protect FI’s family who is so nice and normal.
Even though I am sad to undo the wedding (kind of mourning what will never be), I cannot tell you what a RELIEF it is to not having to finish planning. I have to deal with my ailing father, I am trying to finish up my thesis (in the evenings, I work FT during the day), life is kind of stressful already. It is really a godsend to have a wedding off my plate right now. I too was getting very anxious about all of it. I also have started to sleep normal!