(Closed) Has anyone ever regretted getting a big center stone?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
5161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

TheGridMonster:  This is similar to me. My ring size is a 5. I have a 2 carat OEC Amora-enhanced moissanite in a bezel. I have never ever had ring shrinkage and I actually sometimes wish I had stuck with a 1.25-1.5 ct, which was sizes of my original sapphire ring. For me this is mostly due to lifestyle and environment, but look (size) as well. 

However, the stone itself and the ring is beautiful so no regrets there!

Post # 32
5224 posts
Bee Keeper

rosesareyellowandpink:  When it comes to step cuts, I say go big or go home! I actually prefer smaller stones, but step cuts need a bigger carat weight to show off their amazing geometric cut. Go for it.

Post # 33
229 posts
Helper bee

I have a 1 ct. round brilliant in a custom solitaire setting. I adore it, and it is excellent quality. I inherited it; would not have been able to afford a stone of its size and quality otherwise. I wear it because of its sentimentality, but I do worry about damaging/chipping it. I sometimes wonder if a .50 – .75 would be more practical for everyday wear. I LOVE the look of larger stones on other people, but I know I would be self-conscious and nervous about anything over 1 ct. for myself. I would absolutely wear a larger stone on my right hand for special occasions, but for my wedding set, I am just teetering on the edge of comfort and security with my 1 ct. I do know how privileged I am to have it, so I hope I’m not coming off as sounding spoiled or ungrateful!

Post # 34
10577 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

My center stone isn’t near as big as most of these posted (1.65carats) but I’ve got a halo setting and a size 3.5 finger so it gives me close to 70% finger coverage. Most of the time I love how big it looks, but there are times when I wish I had a smaller stone in a solitaire setting to wear on days when I’m not feeling blingy. But overall I have no regrets and would love to have a 3 carat stone someday, however this would definitly not be in a halo!

Post # 35
3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

theshannondee:  lol on the ring boards I feel my ring is small and lackluster. In real life I feel my ring is pretty big for the general population. 

Post # 36
2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The larger the stone the more attention-which could be good or bad depending on you. A large moissanite others will suspect its not a real diamond. Mines a carot but I tell what it is. I recognize them (my bff has one too) plus I’d rather avoid thoughts of being a poser or liar by omission. Before anyone says they don’t associate with anyone who makes judgements,  get real (haha pun intended)  we all judge, everyone is human.   Few if any people would ask or say something directly, so not asking, or just going along, does not necessarily mean they believe its a diamond.  Something to consider in case it matters to you.

We are planning on upgrading to a real diamond same size in the future once we have the money.

Post # 39
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

The morganite I have is ike 3.5 equiv (i think, I’m not sure), and honestly, I wish he had gone WAYYYYY smaller hahahah. Its high profile and large. I think it would better if it was like 2.5 and lower profile. It just gets in the way ALWAYS!


Post # 41
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

rosesareyellowandpink:  hahah thanks, those nails were glue on from the store by the way. I like them when i want to switch it up for a few days. ( i keep my real nails super short). I think my setting is considered a cathedral setting. Its gorgeous, its just a lot of ring. And i work in healthcare so im constantly using gloves, which means i almost never wear my actual ring, but a stand in.  


Post # 43
5965 posts
Bee Keeper

I have fingers that are on the “larger” side. I was around a size 8-8.5 (finger size around 8 or a bit larger, but rings sized to 8.5) when I first started posting on the Bee. Since then, I’ve lost weight and am down to around a size 7 – 7.5 (finger size = 7, but rings usually sized somewhere between 7 and 7.5).

All of that as a bit of background to say that I’ve always felt self-conscious about how different stone sizes look on my hand. I always wanted a solitaire, but always thought there was no way I could afford a stone large enough to not get swallowed up by my big finger size. So, a few months ago, I bought a London Blue Topaz that’s around 3.5 ct equivalent. It’s actually cut a bit deep, so it’s probably closer to a 2.5-3ct stone in width. I had the extremely wonderful David Klass set it into a rose gold solitaire setting for me. (It’s been all over the boards, so I’m probably not sharing any new information here — lol!)

I really like the large stone quite a lot. I love the look of it on my finger. But, I was surprised to realize that, if the stone were a diamond, I don’t think I would like the size as much. I feel like this larger size looks better to my eye because the stone is dark. In a diamond, I probably wouldn’t want to go much larger than 1.5 — either in a solitaire or in a setting with side stones.

BUT — each person is different. And each cut and individual stone is different, too. I agree with PPs that a larger step cut stone really shows off the beautiful planes and flashes of light. And I don’t think the large step-cut would look “gaudy” or like it was “too much” (in quotes, because I can’t think of better words, and these are terms that get tossed around a lot in relation to rings). By the same token, I don’t think the slightly smaller stone would get lost on your finger, either. I think either size would be beautiful on you. So, you should go with your heart on this one. Whichever stone size makes you feel the happiest and most excited is the one you should go for. And try not to second-guess yourself on it. I know that’s a hard thing, though!

Post # 44
16 posts

rosesareyellowandpink:Β  If you are looking into getting a 10x8mm emerald cut forever brilliant, you should check out jhollywooddesigns’ designer, she has this exact size. She also often posts informative videos (in my opinion) by comparing shapes and sizes in different lightings!


Here is a video of a few 10x8mm.Β 


Post # 45
216 posts
Helper bee

I love my 9.5 mm cushion moissy and wouldn’t trade it for anything πŸ™‚

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