(Closed) Has anyone ever rented a room as a couple before?

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
2407 posts
Buzzing bee

I can’t tell you whether or not you shoud do it. However, I once rented a room from a coworker and her husband.

I acutally moved in when she lived on her own but they bought a house together 11 months later and they offered me a room in their new place. I lived with them for almost two years and moved our right before they got married. I enjoyed it because I was able to save on rent (payed a flat rent fee every month) and I live a lowkey life. They had me sign a lease just to cover themselves and I didn’t mind. 

Since you have experience with him living with you I say go for it. I’d draw up a lease just in case. 

Post # 4
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

To be completely honest… my housemate from when I was single STILL lives in “OUR” home. When we bought our house it was when we were engaged and we didn’t want to live together… so she moved in with me… he moved his stuff in but hardly ever slept here…

Here we are 10 months post marriage and she’s still there. We honestly hardly ever see her and we don’t depend on her rent, we just put it in savings. We pretty much expect she’ll be here until we start a family… but who knows.

If you are comfortable, I say do it. But I must confess, I only DONT mind because she isn’t a part of our “life” in our house… I would want to draw specific boundaries…. 

Post # 5
3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My FI’s cousin lives with us and to tell you the truth, it creates tension between him and I at times because I really, really, want him out of here before we are married.

The mistake we made was not sitting down with him in the beginning and asking how long he thought he would be here and setting boundaries. There have been some problems along the way due to not doing this. My Fiance did not take my advice with setting boundaries/time limits from the get go,and now he is regretting it and seeing why I am so upset about this.

Otherwise, it can be fun to live with a friend /family member. However, boundaries.boundaries.boundaries!!!!

Post # 6
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’ve actually living with other people as a couple, though we always rented from them which was a bit different. We liked the idea of living in community, but it’s honestly been really hard not having much private space (besides our bedroom). We’re going to be getting our own place again at the end of this month and we’re so ready! (we’ve lived with people for a year and a half).

If you do it, I would set very clear boundaries. And I’d say only until you get married. It’s really good to have some space to yourself as newlyweds

Post # 7
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have been on both ends of this situation.  I lived with a married couple in between graduating college and moving to a new state, about 3 months.  Before I moved in, we determined how much I would pay for rent and how we would split utilities.  I learned later that they were skeptical as they had rented a room before and it didn’t end well.  But for our situation it was fine.  We had fun, we stayed within the boundries we set, and it was great.

My fiance and I played host couple to a friend who was going thru a divorce last year.  He moved in so quickly that we didn’t end up setting up any sort of decisions about what he would chip in as far as payments go.  Toward the end of his year with us, we asked him to start paying some utilities.  We shared food, cooked meals, hung out.  In fact I miss having him here as my fiance works late 2 nights a week and I enjoyed having the company.


Final thoughts:  If you have lived with him before, then you have a pretty good idea of what to expect.  If you don’t have much in the way of reservations, I say go for it.  

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