(Closed) Has anyone ever skipped the cocktail hour?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I have been to a lot of weddings and I never saw a cocktail hour until I moved to NY. It is definitely a regional thing, so I guess you think about how your guests would feel about skipping it.

Where I live, we only do cocktail receptions, never seated dinners, no matter how high end the wedding is. But in some parts of the country that would be considered awful.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Like you said, cocktail hour is great for taking pictures. Do you mean you’ll do the pictures after the wedding… b/c after all that fun and dancing who knows what will happen to your makeup/hair. Plus, you’ll be tired. We did pictures before the ceremony and during cocktail hour, and it still took up all of that time, so I know I wouldn’t want to spend hours after the wedding posing for pictures. I just wanted to go relax!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I am in the deep South. There is always plenty of food-heavy hor d’oevres, different stations with carved meats or pastas or whatever. I like them because they are more social and there is more mingling. You don’t get stuck talking to the same 6 people at your table for 2 or 3 hours.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@gso_bride:  our caterer actually told us that an hors d’oeuvre heavy reception usually is MORE expensive than just dinner!  he said it was because they are constantly making more food throughout the evening and supplies run low so that drives up costs.  it probably depends on what type of hors d’oeuvres you go with, but you’d probably want them to keep making them in small batches all night because otherwise they would get cold and/or dried out or something.  anyway, that’s funny you’re worried about falling asleep ha!  you really go to bed that early??  i bet you wont have to worry about it, you’ll be going on pure adrenaline just from the excitement of the day.  my advice is to do a first look and take photos before the ceremony.  you have no idea how long they actually take!  we did that and alloted 4 hours for photos… seems like a long time right?  we we had planned to go to 2 locations and only made it to 1!  the actual photo taking time took about 2.5 hours, the other 1.5 was taken up driving places, getting everyone together, fixing hair (it was a hot day so my hair stylist came back to fix everyones hair after photos) etc.  it was nice to not have to rush.  and then we were able to enjoy the cocktail hour with our guests!  or in your case, would be able to skip it all together!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t have the time to cut it out since we needed to take more pictures then (we took pictures together before the wedding).  If you fall asleep early, just leave the reception early!  Plan all your events earlier in the night so you can leave when you start getting tired.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

@gso_bride:

My brother and sil took pictures seperately before their wedding (him and his family and groomsmen, her and her family and bridesmaids). That saved them some time for the pictures after. My hubby and I decided we didn’t want a lot of seperate pictures, plus we’re Jewish so we did a Ketubah signing before anyway, so we were going to see each other. Might as well get pics!

I love the idea of heavy hors d”oeuvres! Usually the cocktail hour food is better than the plated dinner anyway.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour.  And I’ve been to a TON of weddings!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve been to a lot of weddings without a cocktail hour and we thought about skipping it too if we couldn’t afford the appetizers. However, we’re doing a “room flip” between the ceremony and reception and need the time to rearrange the space. 

I’m in the camp that doesn’t think the cocktail hour is great for pictures though. Everyone is mobile and mingling and I think that’s the perfect time to get around and talk to your guests. We’re doing a first look and then we’re going to try to do most of the family pictures an hour before the wedding. We know it it won’t be that hard to get people to arrive early and our ceremony starts late (7PM) so we’re just going to ask our immediate family to get there by 6. So, I think it’s fine to skip if you make other arrangements for pictures, like before the ceremony.

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