Post # 1
OK bees so I came to my moms business today, and this old man who we dont even know started getting all into our business and he ended up telling me not to get married until I was about 30 (I’m 22 now will be 23 when I get married) so I do not plan to wait that long just because a stranger told me too! Dont get me wrong, I have nothing against those who do wait until that time, but if we wait by then Fiance & I would have been 14 years together, besides we have the venue already. This guy started saying that he didnt care that I had already been 7 years with Fiance, he works at the courthouse so he was saying how he sees so many divorces with people being with their husbands for way longer. I thought it was rude of him because he doesnt even know me! I told my mom that I was getting married when I wanted to get married and that he was nobody to tell me when to do so! Sorry bees but he got me really angry!
Have you gone through something like this?
Post # 3
I’ve had some people who have been divorced kind of tell me this. They don’t do it as explicitly as this man did because they’re friends with my mom, but they definitely make it known what they think about marriage.
Post # 4
Yup- all the bitter divorced people say this shit to me. One woman at work was so ridiculous about it, i finally said “look, just because your marriage didn’t work out, doesn’t mean mine will. please leave it alone” and she did. wtf people?!!? I know the statistics. I’m willing to give it a damn good shot anyway, just like you all did! GGgeeeeeezzzzzzz!!!!!
Post # 5
Yup, MOH’s bitterly divorced and generally unhappy, know-it-all mother said this to me. At FI’s mothers Celebration of Life. With my mother there. Yeah, nice lady…
While I do know the divorce was not a good one (some abuse involved), her general attitude bothers me. Like the whole world owes her. She heavily hints to Maid/Matron of Honor that she owes her grandkids from her even though Maid/Matron of Honor never wants kids. I’m very glad that even though Fiance has a long history with the family she will not be invited to our wedding.
Post # 6
But I’ve also had people tell me “Don’t go to college,” “totally go to college,” “don’t go to graduate school,” “you must go to graduate school,” “don’t have kids,” “definitely have kids,” “eat meat!” “don’t eat meat!”
People always have opinions on how you live your life. But it’s your life. You get all the triumph and all the tribulations of living it, so there’s no point in caring about what strangers say.
Post # 7
Opinions are like assholes. Everyone’s got one and they all stink. Of couse there is at least one bitter anti-marriage person who is going to tell you to “RUN!” during your engagement. It’s almost like a rite of passage.
Post # 8
@star_dust: yeah, I think this guy did it mainly because his youngest daughters husband got caught cheating and she gave birth without him by her side. I believe its all anger.
@Ms Rocky Point: I know!!! He started saying all that crap to me too, and my mom started saying how she read the statistics online and what not, I was like dont push it! So once he left thats when I told my mom that I was getting married when I wanted too! This people have no respect I swear!
@LuckyClover: I seriously dont get why they have to try and ruin everyone elses lifes just because they had to go through a divorce. I know that we all risk going througha divorce once we get married, but it lowers if you the right attitude and you treat each other right. Glad she is not being invited to the wedding, you dont need that type of attitude the day of your wedding 🙂
@BothCoasts: good point. Sorry I made too big a deal of this, I mean I have had family tell me this, but they are family, they know me, not some total stranger. My life, my choice 🙂
Post # 9
@Eight6Eleven: that is very true