Has anyone ever witnessed a “… speak now, or forever hold your peace” moment?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
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Honey bee

lalibee :  Well, kind of but not really. One wedding I’ve seen the groom’s mom cough loud at that moment and if I have to guess, it was in purpose. It was no secret she hated the bride.

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I have a lot of male relatives who would of given us some good natured ribbing at this moment in our ceremony so I totally took it out of the ceremony. 

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Bee Keeper

I can’t remember the last wedding I attended that included that line. I know mine didn’t. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I don’t think I’ve ever even been to a wedding that mentioned that phrase during the ceremony lol. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

slomotion :  What does “given us some good natured ribbing at this moment in our ceremony so I totally took it out of the ceremony.” mean? 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Never been to a wedding where this happened.

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

cosimaskye :  My Dad would have entirely stood up and made a speech or pretended to object or something. I know this cause he told me he was going to about 20 times before the wedding. Then after the wedding a family friend asked why we didn’t include it cause he wanted to say something. 

Admittedly, before our wedding my dad was kind of on the fence about my husband. Sometimes he liked him, sometimes he hated him. Since we’ve been married he’s changed his mind and admitted he thinks he’s a good man and husband and he’s grown to really like him. It just took some time for him to warm up to him and trust that he wasn’t some loser who was going to ruin my life.

 

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Busy bee

slomotion :  Ahh I see! haha Well I am glad that he has changed his opinion on your hubby!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I haven’t seen this in any ceremony I’ve ever been to! I think most people, including myself, remov eit

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Blushing bee

Well, there’s that memorable scene in “Jane Eyre”!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So this is a legal requirement in the UK. The ‘forever hold your peace’ line is for the CoE ceremony but in civil ones they will ask if anyone knows any legal reason they can’t be married. 

In the UK you are either married by banns (CoE) or by giving notice. In both cases for 3 weeks before the ceremony a notice is posted (registry office for notice, in all church services for banns) which announces the marriage and asks if anyone knows any legal reason why it can’t happen. I think it’s a bit of a legal hangover from the days before everything was registered and was a way to stop bigamous marriages.

That said I’ve never had anyone raise an objection. 

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Bumble bee

none of the weddings I’ve ben has had this line.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Speak now or forever hold your peace is actually to do with the legality of the wedding, not for ‘wait, I still love her’ movie moments. 

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Busy bee

i went to one where the groom was in the military…I am not sure if this a tradition at military weddings (as the only one I have been to) but when this question was asked all the miltary guests in their uniform stood up at the point and put their hand on their swords like they were ready to withdraw them….then sat back down….i wasn’t sure of that was a joke such as ‘if you speak, we will kill you’…

I also went to a wedding where some of the guests had all planned and staged to all stand up and say something and then break it into song. It was very strange, we all got an email about it and were told not to tell the bride or groom as it was a surprise. 

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