(Closed) Has anyone ever witnessed an 'objection' at a wedding?

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  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    no.. have wanted to though

    Post # 17
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - hallockville museum farm

    They didn’t say it at my wedding so I just assumed this only happened in movies lol

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Its optional in australia… at least for a celebrant (non religious) we signed a document stating there were no legal reasons affecting this marriage. 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee

    No and I wouldnt want to!! Why would it be funny for someone’s wedding to be ruined?

    Post # 20
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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    2XMOB:  They’ve said it in the weddings I’ve been to. I think it’s still a legal thing here. During our wedding then the priest used it as an icebreaker. He said something like “I have to ask this, so I may as well do it now…” and then made a comment about it being a relief when nobody objected. Everyone laughed. It was really very funny at the time.

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee

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    KinkyOrange:  Yeah, we’re in the US. (east coast) and most ceremonies I go to are Protestant, or christian non-denomenational. I don’t think I’ve been to a Catholic wedding in decades. Most people get married at the venue where they’re having the reception. And most of the couples have a significant roll in writing their vows, if not the whole ceremony. 

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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Here in the UK they apparently take any objections seriously and the bride, groom, accuser and vicar (or whoever is conducting the wedding) have to leave and discuss it. I’ve also heard that if it if someone makes an accusation that a couple cannot be married for legal reasons and it turns out to be false they can be arrested for it.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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    2XMOB:  Yeah, you can’t do that here (write a ceremony from scratch). You can add bits to the ceremony, but there are quite a lot of legal bits you just can’t adapt or remove no matter whether you’re having a secular or a religious ceremony. Some bits also have very specific wording which must be used in order to make the marriage legally valid. On the bright side, it does give British weddings a certain familiarity, no matter whether they’re in a registry office, a church, or a temple…

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    FromA2B2013:  “if someone makes an accusation that a couple cannot be married for legal reasons and it turns out to be false they can be arrested for it”

    DH says no to this one (he’s the legal go-to guy on stuff like this). That said, it also occurs to me that you can technically be arrested for being drunk in a public place, but nobody ever is (unless they’re literally so rat arsed that they’re a danger to themselves or others).

    You’re right that the ceremony must stop if an objection is raised. There are only a set number of objections which are legally recognised, however. I can’t remember them all, but I know the objection is only recognised if it meets one of the criteria on the list…

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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan

    In the US its optional, and I’ve never seen it. The catholic church does not include it in their ceremony here (Our priest said they don’t do that “soap opera” stuff–he judged it harshley). Instead we had 2 people who knew each of us our whole lives sign a form stating they knew of no reason we couldnt marry, and the church bulletin included our names in the upcoming marriage list for a few weeks (baans of marriage, which is also optional but our diocese does it: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Banns_of_marriage)

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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    KinkyOrange:  fair enough! Like you said it’s probably written down somewhere but no one ever makes good on it. Apparently it is also illegal to sell alcohol to a drunk person….!

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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    2XMOB:  They asked at our wedding, and every wedding I’ve been too.

    This is the face we gave our guests when the minister asked, lol!

    Then we all laughed, it was a great moment.

    I’ve never experienced an actual objection before, nor have I heard of one. That would be crazy!

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    No. I have never witnessed an objection at a wedding.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wonder if anyone in real life has objected to a marriage because they were in love with the bride/groom?

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I’m in the UK and the last few weddings I’ve been to it hasn’t been asked. They were all non religious though 

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    winterwoodlandbride15:  Oh my goodness I love that, was that planned or spontaneous?  PS how cute are you two?  Answer: very.

    Jane Eyre is my only wedding objection experience.  Great book 🙂

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