(Closed) Has anyone gone with a new name for both, based on family history?

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MsInterpret: I think that’s a rad idea! I think all that is important is that you pick a name that makes the two of you feel like a family unit… if it feels comfortable to you both already, I’m sure you’re making a good decision.

My Fiance and I are both doing a legal name change. We’re dropping the last letter of my last name and smooshing the two names together to form one amalgamated name that didn’t exist before. We’ve gotten a lot of weird reactions about this… especially from my mom. But hey, it feels like us!

Post # 4
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012


I love that! I always joke around with SO saying that’s what we should do. His name is really boring and my last name is much more interesting, but I have no tie to it really (since it’s from my dad’s side and I don’t speak to him or that side of the family). We’re going to go with his last name (since we’re fairly traditional), but I always think it would be fun to just make our own new last name:)



I think that it’s a great idea if y’all are both comfortable with it. I say GO FOR IT! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

One of the blogging bees – Mrs. Star – did this with her husband.

We’re not, but if we both weren’t really attached to our given last names, I’d certainly consider it.  I think it’s really great that you’re taking the name of someone who’s really embraced you both.

Post # 6
1313 posts
Bumble bee

@MsInterpret: GO YOU! That’s so awesome. I love your idea and you two have the most sound, logical reasoning behind it I think I’ve ever heard. I’d love to take my mother’s maiden name because I am so close to my grandparents, but my SO would never go for that. I think I’ll try to use it as one of my children’s middle names or something, it’s a pretty last name ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
374 posts
Helper bee

I think that you want to take grammy’s maiden name is wonderful because now it is not lost.

I think you should post your intentions on your wedding website and you can make up business cards [vista makes free ones] with your new names, address, and phone # included in your thank you notes.

You can also have thank you stationery printed with your new names.  The enclosure business e card will explain everything.  I think http://www.sandstone.cceasy.com has the best prices.  They even have custom printing.  I found the ecru or white petite folder invitation the best price, under $40 for 100!!  You can print the invitation part with information about your new name, address, phone and inside write the Thank You if you don’t want the business card enclosure with the thank you note.

Also when you are married, will the officiant or MC at reception call you anything?  Or will you be just First Name and First Name?  If your new name is announced at the time you are pronouned married, then the officiant should find a nice way to say that in doing a family tree, you discovered a fantastic woman whose legacy you both want to prepetuate and emulate and in her honor you would like to take her name so that that lineage does not disappear.

I think this is such a great honor.  How wonderful and meaningful!

You need to think of a softer way to explain it than what you confided to us.  No use other people knowing sho much about your lives, it is too much information they don’t need unless you tell them personally.

That grammy was a great woman after whom you want to model your ideals and values is good enough for me!

Congratulations and best wishes.  Just a few more days and counting!! 


Post # 8
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I didn’t go that route, but Mrs. Star did, and so did the Bowie Bride (www.bowiebride.com). The name change may be a bit more hassle, but worth it if it’s important to you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A friend of mine did this — her middle name is Carline, his is Carl, both were named for family members, and so they both changed their last names to Carlin. I think it’s sweet.

Post # 10
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Since you have very good reasons for not liking your current last names and a very good reason for liking her grandmother’s maiden name, I think this is a great idea.  Also a nice honor for the family she found.

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