Has anyone had a lasting relationship with their "rebound"?

posted 3 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I’m very close to being engaged to the man I met 4 days after moving out of my ex’s house (my ex and I weren’t married, but it was a serious relationship.)

I met my current boyfriend/future fiancé by complete accident at a party, so I wasn’t actively seeking anyone out on dating apps, but I certainly think it’s possible to have a successful relationship very soon out of a relationship. I wouldn’t worry too much about what other people think. Just enjoy your new relationship and see what happens!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I’m married to my rebound. 

My ex husband and I were together for 11 years and married for 4,  similar situation to yours except I don’t think he is gay we just lost that spark and were essentially roommates.

I moved out December 2014 and had a few Tinder flings. My now husband and I had our first date early March, became official in April, moved in together in July and were engaged by March the following year. We got married on our 2 year anniversary. 

We are celebrating our second wedding anniversary this coming April and our baby girl is due in May. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My best friend married her “rebound” She was in a very toxic/abusive relationship before she met her husband. A couple months after that relationship ended she met her husband and I think they were married less than a year after she left the abusive asshole.

My SIL dated her high school sweetheart for 7 years, all the way through college before they broke up. She met her now fiancé a couple months after that and they are getting married in May. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I started dating my fiancé within a week of breaking up with my last boyfriend. I was a little worried I was jumping into things at first, but things just naturally moved at a fast pace. Every relationship is different. Don’t let the rebound stereotype get to you too much. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

🙋🏻‍♀️

I’m engaged to my rebound..

Met him on Match about 3 months after a bad break up. We clicked, and he was a wee pet, but I didn’t think it was a go-er for a while as he was so different to my ex and I was still a bit raw..

Engaged 18months later!! 

I think rebound relationships tend to have a high success rate where they really shine a light on how a relationship can be “good” compared to why the last one was bad/ended…!!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

 

I married my rebound after a few years of being with him. I knew from the start that this is not a good relationship but my self-esteem was such down in the dumps that I kept telling myself ‘this is the best I can do’, or ‘I deserve this only’. 

To make matters worse, I had a baby with this fool thinking that this is as ‘good as it gets’. (Un)fortunately, I met an amazing man a MONTH after I got married but I did not pursue that relationship in any shape or form because I was already married.

One day I woke the f**k up and realized my hubby was not only totally wrong for me, but also for our mutual son. He treated us badly.

I finally got the courage to leave the fool after our son turned 3. So, although, my life isn’t super great right now (that was 1.5 years ago), I do feel FREE. And I can’t put a price on that!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

mellyjbee :  And this is exactly why I did not pursue that other relationship when I met a great guy a month after my horrible marriage to my rebound… because this other man had 2 [adult] children from a previous marriage. I felt the heat of the stigma coming off my family already before even THINKING about doing something about it.

Fortunately, we have remained good friends since then and even now after my separation of 2 years, I am still friends with this other man but right now I feel so FREE that I don’t want another relationship yet.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I haven’t experienced it myself but as an outsider seeing friends go through it, the only advice I have is to take your time. Even if you feel this person is right for you it doesn’t mean you have to rush to marriage or kids or what have you. I have seen more rebound relationships not work out than I’ve seen them work and what they all had in common was they moved too fast. The MOST common was they still went back and dabbled with their exes sexually before truly ending things.  This isn’t absolute but it’s good reason to just take your time and make sure you’re both invested in the now and not going back to the past. As far as what others think it isn’t their life to live so do what’s best for you. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I am married to my rebound! I had been with my ex for 6 1/2 years and we were living together, but not engaged. We met and started dating in high school and had been together through college, but we had definitey grown apart during the year prior to the breakup. He had pushed for an open relationship that I reluctantly agreed to because I wasn’t ready to lose him,  but the result of that ended up being that both of us developed feelings for other people. I ended it with him but wasn’t planning on dating anyone for a while. About a week after we broke up, my good friend (who I had feelings for) confessed that he was interested in dating me. I was hesitant about starting a relationship especially because I was going to be going out of state for grad school in a few weeks, but we gave it a shot and 4 years later we got married! We’ve been married for about 4 months now :). “Rebound” relationships can definitely help people figure out what worked or didn’t work in the past and help build more successful relationships in the future. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I met my husband the same week that I signed my divorce.  I wasn’t looking for it, but it just happened.

We met while I was in vacation and although I had the most amazing time with him, I was sure it was going to be just a highlight in my trip because we literally had the Atlantic Ocean in between….

Two weeks later he bought tickets to visit me, and again, we had the most amazing time together. 

He proposed eight months after and now we are happily married.

People do judge, they will say you are rushing into things, but who cares if you know deep in your heart that you’ve never been happier!!! I even lost 2 friends because they insisted this was only a rebound. The truth is I just can’t believe how lucky we are and at the end that’s all that matters.  

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Mount Princeton hot springs

I was more or less my husbands rebound. After him and his ex separated he saw a few people. We met and casually dated for a few months long distance- he lived 4 hours away but worked near me once or twice a month so we would go out then totally casual. Neither of us wanted anything serious but as time passed we were undeniably clicking, we had “the conversation” and realized we both wanted the same things, and from there there have been no questions! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Got cheated on. Banged his cousin. Am now married to and have two children with that cousin.

Oops.

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