(Closed) Has anyone had a second baby a year apart?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My brother and sister are 16 months apart, so a little more than a year, but still. They are very close, only a year apart grade wise and share a lot of the same friends. My mom said it was hard, but at the same time she was able to do a lot of it at once. They were potty trained at the same time, got rid of the “binky” at the same time ect. Also, it was nice for my brother, who is a little reserved, to (almost) always have my sister in school with him for some comfort. My brother is pretty absent-minded too, so it helped having my sister around to make sure he made it to the bus, and then got off at the right stop too. lol

ETA: My mom was on the pill when she got pregnant with my sister, so she definitely wasn’t trying/planning on becoming pregnant.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I didn’t quite understand your post?  Are you already pregnant again?  Or are you thinking about trying again soon? 

I think it if works for your family, that’s great.  If you haven’t started trying yet, you might want to talk to your doctor first, though; some doctors want you to wait a year after birth before trying for another so your body can recover.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My brother and SIL did it and it worked out fine for them but it was a lot of work but they both have jobs so I don’t know if that’s what made it harder?  Or not, they just had to pay a lot for daycare.  It seems like if you’re the only one home taking care of two small babies then it would be difficult.  If you have a spouse or other family members who are willing to help then that’s good but doing it all alone sounds exhausting. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My cousin has kids less than a year apart and she says it was the worst decision she ever made. It was too hectic, too chaotic, the kids just feed off each other, and it’s like they can read each other’s minds. She wishes she had waited a bit longer. Personally, I’d like to have my kids within 1-2 years of each other.

Post # 7
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My sister in law did that. She sat me down and made me promise to never, ever do that to myself….it’s going to be crazy/stressful! Good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My cousin did on accident.  They weren’t intending to have their children that close together.  And while things are fine now (the kids are 5 and 4 now), when they were younger, it was extremely stressful for her.  If she could go back and change things, she definitely wouldn’t have had them so close together.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

FWIW, my brother and I are 16 months apart (so he was 6-7 months old when my mom got pregnant with me) and my mom has said it was hard but she wouldn’t change a thing.  She said it was nice to get all of the “baby” stuff done at roughly the same time, we could share a lot of things and we grew up being really close and still are as adults. 

I have mixed feelings for me, but I have to say that I have friends who were waiting for the magic 2-3 years apart but now that they son is about out of diapers and is able to really communicate and is past the baby stage she is really hesitant to start the cycle all over again with baby #2 and might stick to just one kid.

Whatever your situation (it was a little unclear) I’m sure with good support and a lot of love and patience, you’ll be fine!  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2000

One of my best friends have kids that are exactly a year apart. For her, it was perfect. They got to grow up together. 

The only trouble she ran into was that when her son, the oldest, was learning how to talk, he continued to babble because his little sister was a year behind. So although her youngest was ahead of her class in daycare/preschool, her oldest trailed behind a bit because he was learning with his little sister. 

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