Post # 1
Hello everyone<br />I am getting married sept 2015 and have been dealing with alot of emotional stress.<br />I run my own makeup/hairstyling buisness plus attend school 40 hrs a week, had heart surgery last year and while I was recovering from my heart surgery was hit by a drunk driver while my car was stopped at a red light injuring me badly and causing my heart condition to come back in full swing..UGH! sadly meaning I am on ANOTHER waiting list for another heart surgery to correct my SVT AGAIN *fingers crossed this time it works* <br />My wedding was originally due for this fall but we decided to set it back a year until I am fully out of school and have made progress with my health.<br />Not too sound like a cry baby (I keep my emotions in check all day long but when I get home and I focus on wedding planning my head just SPINS) <br />I have a budget of 30K to play with and thats NOT alot in Toronto Ontario for a huge traditional wedding. <br />I feel like I am being forced into this wedding because my grooms family is guilting him to pressure me into agreeing and I am feeling so beat down I can’t defend myself.<br />The thing I wanted to talk about is, do you ladies think a wedding planner is worth the money? My mother (who isn’t helpful, all she does is argue against my future in-laws) and my future in-laws are all acting like its a huge waste of money and I am just being lazy!<br />Has anyone had a wedding planner? did he/she help alot? what kind of things did they help you do?<br />PS thanks for listening any advice wedding planner related would be wonderful 🙂
Post # 2
A planner was critical! She organized all my ideas, worked with all the vendors, helped me envision what I was wanted, she let me know what was feasible and what wasn’t, she helped me stay in budget, she set up the entire wedding and reception, tore down after everything was over, and she destressed me when was about to flip out. She did sooooooo much.
Post # 3
Honestly, with everything you have going on I think it would be a good investment! Usually with weddings at home I would say no but it sounds like you have a lot of stress going on and it might be worth it for you. I hired one for Mexico as I don’t know the vendors and don’t want to have to worry about anything.. I think it’s a good investment!
Post # 4
@BeeG35 @lilymarie23 thanks for the advice ladies! I didn’t know they can help with the set up and tear down!! That all sounds very lovely <3 <br />I am so tempted to do it all on my own but If I end up in the hospital I am honestly not reachable, and during my last heart surgery I couldn’t lift my arms or walk very well for almost a full two months after and I am terrified no one will help me stay on track if *knock on wood* things don’t go well.<br />Anyways 🙂 THANKS again!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
The stress probably isn’t good for your health, either! I have .0001% of the stress you have, and I still made sure I budgeted for one. They’re awesome!
Post # 6
Get a wedding planner. They are the best. Not only do they do a lot of the grunt work, they greatly reduce stress by being a go-to person to ask questions. Also, they provide an excellent buffer between in laws… when my future mother in law suggests something I don’t like, I just say “hmmm well I’ll have to ask the wedding planner if she thinks that will work” and then I tell the wedding planner that I don’t want to do it and she has to take the fall haha
Post # 7
KYAxoxo: I’m from Toronto. We’re having our wedding at a resort about an hour outside of the city. (We needed a one-site deal.) But I have lots of friends who’ve done weddings right in the city for less than 30k (not much less, but in that ball park.) Our wedding is shaping up to be somewhere between 30 and 35k. It’s doable. We have 190 people on the guest list. If they all come (unlikely) it’ll be 35k+. We think we’ll likely end up with 130-150 in the end. Which should put us right around 30k. We based all our numbers and budgeting off 150. I ran the numbers at 200 to see what we’d be looking at if everyone came, just in case. (We have a lot of overseas guests with brand new babies, so we are expecting it will be impossible for them to make it. It’s understandable, but we still wanted to invite them. So until the ‘nos’ come in, they’re counted in the budget.)
I am getting a Day of Coordinator. I don’t want to be the one answering any questions that day. That’s her job. I met her at a bridal fair and instantly clicked. She’s actually the assistant, but I’m requesting her as my go-to for the day. They also will help any planning and packages are on a case by case basis. Seriously, if you find a good planner they’ll be able to really take some of the stress off. They really aren’t THAT expensive (less than 10% of your budget would get you quite a bit of planning from them.) With everything you have going on, it sounds like a very good option for you.