Post # 1
So I was just wondering about this…has anyone had an argument right before their wedding?
A week, a few days, a day, hours before…what was it about and did it leave a sour note during your wedding?
We fight like most couples do, not all the time, but we just had an argument yesterday and it left me wondering what would happen if we did fight a day before the wedding, while it probably wouldn’t make me cancel the wedding or anything like that but would it make us feel unhappy on the day? Any experience?
Post # 2
we were very stressed before our wedding. Beyond normal wedding stress. My husband’s father had passed away 5 weeks before our wedding. Then we purchased a home and moved a week before the wedding. And before we had time to move in we had two house guests for the week before the wedding.
We had more small disagreements in that week leading up to the wedding than we had in the nearly nine years prior combined. Didn’t put a sour note on anything.
Post # 3
I went on a new birth control about a month before our wedding and it super fucked with my hormones. We got in a pretty big fight about 3ish weeks for our wedding. It wasn’t a huge deal we resolved it and put it behind us.
Post # 4
We have plenty of arguments!! I was upset with him on the morning of the wedding because he was running late likely always. I hate to be rushed. He is always rushed because he leaves too much to the last minute.
I just decided to enjoy it. It’s not worth focusing on the negative stuff. I can either focus on my frustrations–a lifetime if waiting for him because he’s late. Or, I can focus on the positives of the relationship.
Post # 5
Yes. My dad died suddenly 8 weeks prior to our wedding. We were also running his business while commuting back and forth from Cleveland, dealing with irrational family members surrounding my Dad’s death, all while trying to get our wedding together at the last minute.
It was horrible. If there was a silver lining to any of that, it would be that hubs and I saw the worst in each other through the grief and the rallying to pull trough the situation as a team. We had a couple of big arguments. Both associated with the stress. Our honeymoon was much needed.
Focus on the positive things. Do not let anything negative cloud your judgement.
Post # 6
I think fighting is normal – although I have to wonder what’s the escalation of these fights? We’re getting married at the end of September and we’ve been having little tiffs I call them once a week for the last month or so. Granted we realize it’s dumb and make up quickly. I have no concerns that this would spill into our wedding day and ruin it. I have a feeling once that day comes love takes over and all the pettiness melts away.
Granted if you’re fight about big level things maybe it’d be different.
Post # 7
Yes it’s pretty much mandatory to have a big row just before you get married. It’s the stress, fear not, it meaneth nought . Unless you have other causes for concern of course
Post # 8
5 weeks before- called off the wedding- rescinded our “call off” without ever mentioning it to a soul- still married after DECADES but it makes me crazy that I can’t remember what our deal ending battle was about!
Post # 9
I got really sick about 9 days before our wedding and was super stressed out. Then I got medicine and finally felt better about 4 days before the wedding, as soon as I felt better my DH got exactly what I had and was MISERABLE in the days leading up to the wedding. He was so upset that he was sick for the “most important day of his life” <~ his words… (I’m flattered that’s how he felt about our wedding but he put too much stock into it IMO to the point of stressing himself even more.)
We got into some doozies before the wedding because we were sick and over the top stressed. I will say that the day of the wedding we were completely over it and had the best time. Our honeymoon was even better because we finally got to RELAX. And we had the best time on our honeymoon.
Post # 10
Oh yeah we fought a lot leading up to the wedding! It’s a stressful time. I wouldn’t say we were at each other’s throats, but we fought the day of the rehearsal dinner TWICE over schedules and who was late and who was holding things up.
Post # 11
Didn’t have a big argument but contemplated breaking up about 2 weeks before the proposal, which is pretty big. I was under a lot of stress and to this day, I will always remember the proposal as the day I planned to break up with him. I don’t regret the marriage at all though. We’re leading a happy life now and I am glad I never went through with what I had planned. 🙂
Post # 12
Wedding stress is pretty normal. I think it’s pretty normal to have petty fights during the planning process, especially the closer it gets to the day. My husband and I had plenty of them, but none of them were lasting. To be honest, I don’t even remember what they were about because they were little things heightened to “important to fight over” due to stress.
It didn’t change our joy or our partnership on our wedding day at all. And in fact, on our honeymoon we laughed and joked about a lot of the things we had fights over.
That is a trait that we maintain in our marriage to this day. We fight, find resolutions and forget, or fight, get carried away, and then laugh about it – sometimes in the middle of the fight.
So for us, all those little silly fights were probably the best thing that happened to us. We knew just what to expect of each other at “our worst” and still knew we wanted to be together.