(Closed) Has anyone had more bridesmaids than groomsmen???

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was suppose to have 8 and 8 but two bm couldn’t make it so I had 8 gm and 6 bm.

I just doubled up the gms with the bms.  It worked out fine.

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am having 3 bridesmaids & one best man, 1 flower girl, 1 ring bearer. My concern isn’t so much the photos as the dancing? I don’t know about here in the US (Im from Australia but live here now) but aren’t the bridesmaids & groomsmen supposed to dance with each other after the bride & groom have been dancing for a while to let everyone know they can dance now? I won’t have enough groomsmen for the dance.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

So glad to hear of others with a “lopsided” wedding party.  I have 6 bridesmaids, my fiance had 5 groomsmen.  I had an “extra” girl I wanted to ask and he didn’t have anyone else he wanted to ask.  My brother will walk two girls down.  My  mom freaked out saying”people are going to think someone got sick”.  Too bad mom, I don’t care what people think, its about having those you WANT to stand beside you, it doesn’t have to be even 🙂

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I don’t think it matters at all!  Photographers tend to do a nice job at blending everyone in rather than cheesey couples photos.  Having people stand with you that mean the most to you is the far more important than even numbers! 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have 6 bridesmaids. Right now, he has a best man and 1 groomsmen, hopefully he will ask two more soon. 6/2 just makes me feel ugh. I know it shouldnt be a bit deal. I am making more of it than I should. I just don’t want to look silly with 6. Cry

Post # 22
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Wannabee

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Lisamr:  I am planning a similar wedding in a months time but only 3 BMs and 1 groomsman, I would love to know how it went for you and how you sat at the reception etc – the walking in and out of ceremony is easy but I am finding reception much trickier- I would love to know anyone’s thoughts on how to sit etc, thank you 

Post # 23
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Worker bee

Im so glad to have found this thread…. Fiance isn’t super close with a lot of his friends and isn’t sure how many Groomsmen he wants (The only two for sure right now are my brothers… By his choice which just makes me so happy) I in the other hand had 7-8 girls I wanted to ask… Which I think Fiance has enough friends who would be hurt not being included that we could get the parties close, I dont mind 1 or 2 difference but I’d prefer not 2Groomsmen and 8BMs! Then a cousin started stating that she was also going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, which 1 person is not a huge deal but I’m not close enough with her to justify asking her and not my other, equally or more close, females cousins, and three more girls would take me to 11 which is just waaaay to big for me… I’m kinda hoping since we’re newly engaged and the wedding is over a year away that she will forget or let it drop but I have a feeling I’m going to have a fun “I’m sorry i just can’t have that big of a party” convo… If she were someone who really just wanted to help I’d want to include her but I’ve seen her in other weddings and she’s one of those people who makes it all about her…. I’m not going to stress or cut someone who’s being understanding so she doesn’t throw a fit (one of my BMs offered to step down if it would help me but I feel like THAT is the person you want there with you, it’s bullshit to punish someone for being a better friend and I’m someone who would offer in the same situation but it would still hurt to be pushed aside because someone else would’ve caused drama – you can’t reward those people!!) 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 2 Groomsmen, each just got two gals to walk with.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: garden/backyard - July 9, 2016

I am having 3 matrons/bridesmaids (I told them to draw a straw who is going to sign for me), my two sisters and best friend, and a jr bridesmaid, our daughter.  He is having two groomsmen, his brother and our son (his best friend passed away years ago).  My plan is for his brother and my best friend to walk back up the aisle together and my son will have both of his aunts.  My daughter will walk back up with my mom since otherwise she would walk alone (my dad passed away as well).  So we are definitely lopsided but I think it will work out just fine!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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susan.lyon.nz:  we did 3 girls, 1 guy and it was perfect.

for the recessional after mass, best man walked out with bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor took Flower Girl. We did the same for intros at reception.

We all sat at one round table for reception, me, DH, Wedding Party, and their dates. 10 total. This arrangement was great for us and eliminated a lot of the potential drama with splitting up couples, etc. Our vendors actually commented as to how much easier it was on everyone to be seated like that.

 

The whole eveness thing was always wierd to me… DH has been in a few weddings where it was clear he was only asked to keep the numbers even so we felt pretty strongly about not doing that.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

not lopsided 🙂

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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ericalee:  6bms 5 GMS Best man will be escorting my MOHs cause i have two

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