(Closed) Has anyone had the big wedding BEFORE getting legally married (k1 visa related)?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should we tell people about
    Tell immediate family only : (2 votes)
    20 %
    Tell all guests before the wedding so they can choose not to come : (2 votes)
    20 %
    Tell only guests travelling long distances so they can choose not to come : (0 votes)
    Tell people if they ask, but don't advertise : (2 votes)
    20 %
    Keep it between the two of us : (4 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I want to give you more advice but I’m not exactly sure I understand your plans….

    are you having your wedding in Australia or the USA?

    and where is the wedding you’re in next year? USA or AUS?

    And at what stage of the K-1 process are you?


    Post # 4
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yeah, I got the same questions as PP.

    I can say that there are probably Bees who have had the ceremony before the legalization. I’m assuming this is so because we have gay and lesbian Bees, but their marriages are not legal everywhere. So I assume some of them have had symbolic ceremonies.

    Do you think our celebrant would even perform the wedding without the legal components?  Good question. I’m thinking no, because they have to sign the marriage certificate. There is no certificate in this case. Maybe look for one that speciaizes in vows renewals and ask them how they do it. I don’t think you need a real one because it’s not a real ceremony. 

    Would you be offended if you found out someone was doing thisWould it change whether or not you decided to go to the wedding? I’d have a bunch of questions. Once it’s all explained, I guess I’d understand. I’d go to the wedding because I care about the couple, so yes, I’d still go to it. 

    Would you think that people who are financially contributing to the wedding would object? Another good question. I assume they’d want it to be real.

    Should we tell people? No, because it’s too confusing and it takes too much explaining to too many people. I wouldn’t tell anyone that it wasnt’ real.

    How do we decide what to do??  If you decide to do the symbolic wedding, don’t tell anyone that it’s symbolic. Then when you get to USA, elope quietly on your wedding anniversary if possible. 

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