(Closed) Has anyone had to ‘ban’ someone from the wedding? long, sorry.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Dolfyn:  Oh. My. Damn.

I read your story in shock. My My My Word!!!

By all means hire security. I can’t believe the ovaries on this woman! Like really What. The.Hell!!!!!!

Please hire security. Secure all exits and windows in the church. My heart just broke for you. This has got to be the worst story I’ve ever read on the BeeCry

I am so glad you have parents who love you. Your bio mom deserves nothing from you. She didn’t even deserve your motel visit.

But yes, hire security. Enjoy your day and your family.

Post # 4
5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

get a court order, hire security – this person may have given birth to you but she is not a mom!

seriously i would use a legitimate security company – i did for my nieces 18th because i felt if there was any issues the guys at the door wouldnt take it personally. its just a job for them


Post # 5
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Yeah, hire security.  This woman is terrible.  Reminds me of the mom from “Where the Heart Is”, if you’ve ever seen that.

Post # 6
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry to hear that your birth mother is like this. You are doing exactly the right thing by banning her. I’m sure it hurts. But hold your ground. Your real mom will be at your wedding. And as for your birthmother she just heard the word wedding and wanted to be part of the attention. Everyone will be better off with out her there!

Post # 7
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Holy Smokes I thought my mom and Future Mother-In-Law were pieces of work.  Hire security.  It will be worth your peace of mind.  Trust me I’ve thought about it!!

Post # 8
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Hire security for the ceremony.

It’ll be worth it — this woman is CRAZY. I’m so sorry you have to deal with her.

Post # 9
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Dolfyn:  omg. i almost cried reading ur story no lie. God bless ur FIs parents. They and ur Fiance have obviously been ur rock. 


I would completely ban her from the wedding. It is YOUR day. I can’t imagine any mother saying those things to their daughter. I’m so sorry for what u are going for but you have a well deserved life long days of happiness with ur Fiance waiting for you! 

By The Way im sure everything you picked out including ur dress and veil are totally beautiful! 

Keep us updated!

I work as a corrections officer i could totally stand guard ;p

Post # 10
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

im still just completely baffled by this o_o

Post # 11
2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Dolfyn:  OMG. You are an amazing person. YES hire security — I can get you the contact info of a business in Northern California, is that where you are on the West Coast? Inform everyone on staff at the church and reception about your mother. Provide a description of her, give a photo of her if you have one. They are to call the police if she is on site and notify security. Security people hired for a wedding will dress up as guests so no, they won’t be all in black with dark sunglasses and wires, etc. Just be sure you put the right people in place and they will do the rest. I’ll write you more later.

Post # 12
22 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh sweetie, here I thought i had it bad, and was complaining b/c my fiancee’s brother backout of being a groomsmen b/c his g/f kids can’t come to our wedding, by all means hire security, get military personnel, take it from a military fiancee (my fiancee is in the airforce) keep her away from you, you deserve nothing but the best for you, and your bio-mom has nothing to do there and she will probably show up and want to make a scene just like she showed up unnanounce at that gathering you said you guys were having.. keeping the money un-touched was the best thing you could have done. You have a great family that loves you, and who knows why she’s back and don’t worry about her words, just know you are going to be a beautiful bride and a wonderful mother..

Post # 13
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should hire security. They will not make a scene. They will stand most likely out side the church so the only time a “scence” would be noticed is before or after the actual ceremony. They will be professional! Please dont let this women ruin your wedding!

We did decide to not invite one person because of behavior but I have the kinda fmaily were you dont need bouncers. They tend to not care how big a scene there is as long as the person who is not welcome leaves

Post # 14
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just wanted to let you know that I have also kinda “banned” my mother from the wedding too. She is only called my mother because she gave birth to me, and there is no other relationship or connection to her. She is so self centered that I’m pretty sure that she’s not going to take it seriously, and try to show up anyway. The best thing about my situation is that my mother has no money- no job, no car, no house and not really many friends either. So as long as the rest of my family is on board with her not being there, i’m hoping I can get away with a perfect day without her. I wish you the best of luck with this… I know that since I decided that she shouldn’t be there, and firmly held my decision, there has been a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. I really hope that you find a solution soon so you can have the same peace and just enjoy your day.

Post # 15
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh – I’m so sorry 🙁 How sad! Security/ushers/something… It doesn’t sound like it’d be a good situation if she showed up

Post # 16
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. That woman has no call to do this to you. Hire security for sure to keep her away, so that you can enjoy making your relationship to your wonderful family legal without any worries.

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