(Closed) Has anyone had to deal with jealous/indifferent friends or family?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

In response to your posting title:  my whole life!  My family is really dysfunctional.  When I called my mother to tell her I was getting engaged she said, “How are we going to pay for THAT!  You can have it at your Dads!”  (Parents are divorced and my Dad’s place is a major bachelor pad with cars in the yard and mosquitoes!)  It made me cry. 

It only got worse from there.  If you have difficult family, my best advice is to do what is right for you, do your own thing and let the dysfunctional have a fit.  They will anyway!  🙂

Post # 4
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mypoarents are oretty indifferent. But that’s ok because it is a step up from being mean and critical which is how they were at first.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have an aunt who’s always made a competition out of everything concerning her daughter (2yrs younger than me) and me. Her daughter announced her engagement last year, thya were supposed to get married last august, then moved it to this january but by november they said there wasn’t going to be a wedding, they were just getting married in the city hall.

When I announced my engagement (I just told my grandparents and they spread the news) this aunt started asking unnapropiate questions with a passive aggresive tone in front of my mom, I’m not going traditional and she started pushin about the subject knowing this is a toushy subject between my mom and I. Needless to say it brought trouble between my mom and I later.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@cbee: Glad to know I’m not the only one. I was showing my cousins my venue’s website and my mom started rambling about how a waste of money that looked like and how ridiculous it sounded, I lost it and shouted “Good you’re not paying for it”… last time I let her know anything about my planning.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My sister is acting pretty indifferent. Which is a shame, because she’s one of my bridesmaids 🙁

Oh well.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Future Sister-In-Law was suppose to be my maid of honor and best friend but I just found out her n her husband(FI bro) were talking crap ,jelouse because my Fiance and I were having this wedding ,ultimately causing huge problems and ending our friendship & relationship:( only 11 weeks till the wedding:( jealously brings out the worse in some people its really sad.

Post # 9
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Forgot to mention that Fiance bro and his wife are trying to convince other relatives not to attend our wedding:/

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My sister’s main reaction when I told her was, “Shut the f*** up” about ten times. Awesome. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

My family really didn’t care, or at least didn’t/don’t seem to. 

Post # 12
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I lost several close friends over it. It still bothers me a bit, but I’m hoping when their time comes to get engaged/married/start a family etc. they’ll maybe understand why their lack of support/nasty words were so hurtful to me last year.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

Future Brother-In-Law was the first person to know after he proposed. He just shrugged and said “didn’t you already know you were eventually gonna get married? No big deal”….then kept typing away on his laptop. He never said congratulations, didn’t attend our engagement party, and now he resents us because our wedding day happens to fall on his birthday. :/

 

We’ve tried talking to him about it, but he remains indifferent. he insists that he doesn’t have a problem with me, but he seems to hate the fact that I’m marrying his brother for some reason. Everyone else in his family is really happy for us, so I don’t know what’s going on.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My family really doesn’t care either. My nana, who i am very close with, is acting so weird. She isn’t excited or happy, she really doesn’t even want to talk about it. Thank god for my Maid/Matron of Honor. Also, my Fiance is really into the planning and I think everyone’s negativity has brought us closer and made us stronger.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve been engaged for months and haven’t even had so much as a “congratulations” from my sister, and aunt and uncle. Just can’t let it get to you! I hope everything works out for you

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had a “friend” respond to our engagement with “What?? Holy crap, we need to kick butt into shape and go kickboxing” She then asked me to send her a picture of my ring and at that she said “ow ow hot mama…oh wait that’s me.” Which meant she was telling me she’s pregnant, before they even told their parents. Never got a congratulations, I’m happy for you, nothing. She obviously can’t stand the attention being on anyone but her. Rude.

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