(Closed) Has anyone lost a friend after they tied the knot?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Stay out of it. : (4 votes)
    36 %
    Talk to a close family member about her situation. : (3 votes)
    27 %
    Try talking to her about it again. : (4 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9072 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    If she’s with an abuser, she is being brainwashed.  She isn’t going to listen to you & you will be perceived as the enemy.

    If she seeks your advice, you could take her to the nearest DV facility.  You can also call the National DV hotline yourself & see if they have any suggestions.

    Post # 4
    Member
    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It pains me to say it because she has been your best friend since grade 1, but you may need to let this play out.  I’ve been in a similar situation (albeit with a person i probably wasn’t as close to as you are to your BFF), spoke my mind one night when i had ALOT to drink, and now we don’t speak.  I stand by my opinion that in the case of my friend, he is abusive to her and it will end badly, but besides trying to talk to her about it there is very little you can do.  Verbal abuse is the most insidious type and so difficult to prove/show evidence for.

    I wish you and your friend very good luck in everything.  I’m sorry you have to be witness to this, and feel powerless. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d try to (gently) talk to her again – maybe more of a “You haven’t seemed like yourself lately.  Just so you know, I’m here if you want to talk about ANYTHING or if you need ANYTHING at all” kind of conversation than “I think your husband is verbally abusive”.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5153 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think that it is okay for you to let her know that you are there for her anytime to talk but be careful to not be TOO pushy about it. You don’t want her to shut you out more/completely because you hound her or make her feel defensive. 

    How did your friend respond when he said that?

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