(Closed) Has anyone NOT been invited to a wedding you FI was invited to?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That is totally ridiculous and very rude!! I don’t have any advice for you but I assure you this is not normal. You guys are engaged and living together! That alone merits an invite, plus you said you are friends with these people too, so yeah, definitely you should have been invited. This is just insane.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hm, that is kinda mean! I do know that my Fiance is going to ask one of his friends to be a Groomsmen, and his girlfriend will not be invited. I know, its mean, but we DO NOT get along with this girl or like her at all!

Can your Fiance ask them about it?!

Post # 5
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435 posts
Helper bee

That’s crazy rude!!  Do you think you will be getting your own invitation and it’s just a day behind or so?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Totally rude. We invited all engaged couples and couples that live together. We just didn’t want random strangers coming along.

My Fiance has gone to a couple weddings without me and vice versa since we’ve been dating, but none since we started living together or were engaged. I thought that was standard practice.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Is there any way they might have mailed you each an invite? 

Post # 7
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maybe it was a mistake.  Perhaps one of their parents or friends, who does not know you, helped out with the invitations and they did not catch it.  Can you have your fiance call and check? 

If it wasn’t a mistake . . . well that’s just rude! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Uh I would make Fiance boycott that wedding! So not cool especially if you are all friends! I am friends with FI’s best man and groomsmen as well as their gf’s and they are all obviously invited even if I had limited space there is no question they should be invited. I am not inviting them to the bachelorette/bridal shower though just because although we are all friends we never hang out with out the guys lol

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would have problems with this…seriously. I can understand space constraints but they know you are living together and engaged and didn’t invite you. Talking about a slap in the face. I know if that were me…my Fiance wouldn’t be going and they wouldn’t be getting a gift.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Yikes….  I think in this situation it would be ok for him to double check with them and then politely decline the invitation to be in the wedding or to attend if you are not extended an invite.  I see your wedding date is far in the future.  Were you very recently engaged and it’s possible that they don’t know?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i would check to make sure it isnt a mistake. we kind of had this happen…we were both on the invite for his cousins wedding, but only he got invited to the rehearsal dinner. it was a 4 hour drive, so we assumed i would be invited (and it was a huge event anyway). had his parents check, sure enough, i was accidentally left off the invite by the grooms parents.

if it isn’t a mistake–totally rude. he’s in the wedding, and its far away. i think its totally not right to not let him bring a date. it’s not like youre the flavor of the week or something.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

OMG!! That SAME exact thing happened to me. My Boyfriend or Best Friend was in a wedding of one of his childhood friends and the girl and I didnt get along AT ALL but we live together at least of I”m not invited put me as a plus one!

My Boyfriend or Best Friend was so pissed off he called them and told them that if I couldnt come he wasnt going to be in the wedding.

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