(Closed) Has anyone older then 25 gotten the "you're too young" comments?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’ve gotten condescending looks and comments from strangers… until they find out how old I am. I guess 27 isn’t too young to be engaged unless you look like you’re 21. Before I was engaged and nobody in my social circle was married or engaged (I am the first of my close friends), I got comments about how strange my friends and I were for not being married earlier. There’s no pleasing everyone!

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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memo:  

We have gotten those comments a couple times. I was 25 when we got engaged and my Fiance is 29. When we’re married I’ll be 26 and my Fiance will be 30. We have gotten the ‘you have plenty of time’ comment… I didn’t think that was young haha. It doesn’t help that we both look younger than we are, so maybe that’s why. It doesn’t both me, we both know we’re ready. 🙂

Meh to other people, the comments have been few and far between, and I’m enjoying being engaged!

Cheers bridal babes!

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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memo:  I´m 21 but we´ve been together for a while (7 years when we get married) so people generally think it is about time, I guess it depends on the person really.  My Fiance is financially stable, we have our own house, I´m currently a student but we´re ready to take the leap and we´ve been together long enough to know that it is right for us.  I have a male friend that is marrying after just a year with his new gf (and divorced less than 2 years ago)… he is 33 but it still feels very very rushed (they barely know each other and broke up a few months ago and are now planning a wedding).  I have been told I am too young by a few people, I personally think 21 is very young to marry and it is much younger than I would have expected myself to get married.  That is the way things have worked out though and it is far better than what I would have planned. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Fiance & I are both 26, been best friends since age 11, will have dated for 5 years when we get married & we’ll be 28 then. I just graduated law school, he’s finishing his Master’s in Architecture in December & we’re homebodies. His father STILL thinks we’re “too young”! Honestly, he just has commitment issues of his own & is just projecting. It doesn’t help that we look 16 & Fiance will be the first of his siblings to marry (he has 2 older siblings & 2 younger siblings), so Father-In-Law has a small case of “My baby’s getting married!” syndrome.

Every time he has one of his little tantrums, I very sweetly remind him that by the time HE was 26, he’d already dropped out of college, gotten divorced from his teen marriage, had a child with that 1st wife, got another girl pregnant, married her because his parents told him to & has decided to remain married to her even after 30 years of being miserable (not to mention constantly cheating on her), so yeah. He seems to finally be coming around, though.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yes, my fiance sayed this! He still thinks we are too young (25 and 26) for marriage))

 

Post # 36
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No,I never did. I was 25 when I got engaged, 26 when married. Most of my high school friends aren’t anywhere near marriage, but I’ve been with my DH for 6 and a half years so no one judged. I have gotten “too young for kids” but I totally agree. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

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memo:  Nope. Mine was sort of the opposite. More of the underhand “you’re not getting any younger.” I’ll be 28 when married. 

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yes, but I’ve also gotten, “it’s about time.” Clearly there’s no pleasing everyone, so I’ll just do what’s right for me/us 🙂

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sort of?! I  went to a bridal show and the lady behind the sign-in desk, who was a b*tch for no reason, told me she was only dealing with brides at that moment. I was like, yeah, I am a bride, and she stared at my hand in confusion (I guess I should have had on a twist-tie instead of a ring). I just turned 30. That day I was wearing some bright colors and my hair was in a ponytail. I probably looked like I was a junior bridesmaid or something to her. When people hear me speak they realize that I am older than I look. Some people just say and do really ridiculous things. In the end, it is none of their business what you do. I was married previously at 23, but I realize that back then I was not ready and I did not know that I deserved better. Now I definitley do! I was married to someone much older and figured out that age and maturity do not always match.

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