(Closed) Has anyone REFUSED to see your dress?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My Future Mother-In-Law also refused to look at pictures of my wedding dress.  She’s upset because we’re having a wedding on a smaller budget, and she thinks it’s selfish of me to spend money on a dress I’m only wearing once.  She doesn’t even care that my parents were the ones who insisted on buying it for me, and really that it’s none of her business how they spend their money.

I was extremely hurt when all of this happened, but this isn’t the first time she’s upset me before.  I’ve really just learned that we’re not going to get along because I am marrying her oldest son, and she has a lot of issues associated with that.  Fiance also tried to explain to his mom why it upset me so much, and she just started crying and said “well think how I feel!”  Wait, what?  Yeah, so my approach now is just to be as polite as possible and avoid stepping on any toes.  I don’t share things about the wedding unless she asks, and other than that, I realize the people whose opinions matter most to me are what’s important, not her bitter feelings about the wedding.

Just remember, it’s your dress, and you love it for a reason, she doesn’t need to validate it for you.  To be honest, saying anything else (at least in my experience) will only make the situation worse.  Just move on and try to enjoy the planning process and your wedding day!

Good luck!

Post # 4
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

that seems really strange!  My Mother-In-Law asked to see a photo of my dress and then immediately “oh, I’m SO glad you aren’t wearing a strapless dress.  that is getting so old” 

I could laugh it off because I didn’t get a strapless, but I hope she wouldn’t have said anything negative if it was!

You picked out your dress because YOU love it!  And you feel beautiful in it.  I’m sure youre fiance will think the same and that’s the most important thing. 

I’m sorry your Mother-In-Law just isn’t that into the wedding stuff, but maybe it’s for the best that she doesn’t see it beforehand.  I’m sure when you’re wearing it on your wedding day, she’ll have nothing but compliments for the bride!

Post # 5
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Latte – ugh, my Future Mother-In-Law said “you’re not going to wear a strapless dress, right?” and I was like, “yes, I was planning on it,” and she looked so sad. Oh well! I’m happy! 

@GirlWithARing – I think that’s weird, but I’d just shake it off. If she wants to act distant about it, that’s fine. Try not to let it ruin your day. 🙂 

Post # 6
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think I’d be like that. Please don’t show it to me because I don’t want to insult you. I suck at faking “positive” emotions.

Don’t take it too seriously.

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