(Closed) Has anyone taken FI dress shopping?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

he went with me once, because i wanted his opinion. i didn’t find anything at the appointment, and they weren’t very nice. plus, he was bored out of his mind, so, i didn’t take him again.

he has, however, seen my dress. he just doesn’t know which dress i chose. he’s seen all of the dresses i’ve tried on.

Post # 4
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m pretty traditionally so I haven’t shown my fiance my “current” wedding dress, I had ordered a dress 3 years ago when I first got engaged and my fiance accidentally saw a picture of it when he was looking through my phone. So I sold that one and ordered another.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jdhall89:  i don’t doubt that it was a part of it. the second they saw him, he was treated like an outsider. wasn’t offered a drink (i was), was told to sit and wait, and was pretty much stared at. he was uncomfortable.

i was also in a really affluent area, known for snobby people. when she asked my budget, and i told her “under $1000”, she sort of stared at me. plus, i’m plus sized. and she pretty much flat out told me that “dress shopping at that size isn’t easy.” so i think it was a combination of him being there, me being plus sized, and the consultant being an uppity snob. i was turned off by the entire experience. i never went back to the store, even though they carried a dress i really wanted to try on.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

I took him dress looking. I don’t regret it, I got his opinions on what he liked on me and didn’t like on me. But I went dress shopping again without him and bought a dress he hasn’t seen yet. Well he has seen it but not on me. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not a fan of men going dress shopping of any kiand not not just because of superstitions or anything, it just doesn’t seem right

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jdhall89:  eh. i had issues at over half of the places i went to try on dresses. this was just one of the more… difficult consultants. i found my dress, i’m over it now.

just something to make my complaints have a point and not just be vents: take your Fiance if you want to. it won’t hurt anything, and it’s always nice to have his opinion. however, he may feel out of place. and the consultants may feel weird having a man around. one of the bridal shops i went to actually had a “no men allowed” rule. just something to keep in mind.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I took my Fiance dress shopping with me for both of my weddings.  The first time around, my view was that he was going to spend more time looking at the dress than I was, so I wanted it to be something he liked.  The second time, I married a woman, so we coordinated dresses.  I’ve never regretted it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wanted to take my fiance dress shopping with me, but (not only did he not really want to go), but some of the bridal shops wouldn’t let him in the area where brides get changed. They won’t allow any men back there because of all the ladies getting in and out of dresses and, being engaged, they’re bound to want to stare at other women getting changed.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

@jdhall89:  When I took my Fiance there was a consultant there who was almost appalled that I brought my Fiance with me. She wasn’t my consultant that day but walked by us and kind of made a comment about how it was bad luck and the dress should be a surprise anyway. I just said I don’t believe in that superstition and I want his opinions but of course he won’t see what I ultimately choose and I don’t want him to see me with veil and jewelry on. My consultant said she completely understood. I explained that while I pretty much already know his dislikes in a dress I’d hate to buy something he thinks is truly ugly. Example is I know (knew this before dress shopping) that Fiance hates the one shoulder strap look. I personally don’t care either way and think some dresses it addes a lot of character. But what if I chose a dress with that on it…do I risk him hating my wedding dress just because of that one feature when to me it is a minor thing.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Darling Husband went with me. The shop even had a “man cave” of sorts, really just a waiting room with a nice comfy sofa in case a guy didn’t want to hang around the dressing room area. He was a little bored between dresses while I was changing, but was glad he could help. And I trust his opinion way more than anyone else’s! He and I didn’t agree on “the” dress— we bought (I say “we” because he snuck his credit card to the associate without my knowing, and paid the deposit) my second choice, his first choice, but my first choice was a fit-and-flare that is quite a departure from my usual wardrobe, and he was exactly right in saying that, while it looked great, I didn’t seem comfortable in it, and in hindsight, the dress we bought really was “the” dress.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Darling Husband went with me and helped me decide which one to get. We always do everything together including all the wedding planning so picking our clothes out together felt natural. Plus he had to pay for it so he might as well see it and like it. I was so glad he was there, I hated dress shopping and he made it more comfortable/ less stressful.

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