(Closed) Has anyone traded in their engagement ring setting?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I remember your previous posts and it seems like you really had your heart set on a halo. That doesn’t mean you are materialistic that’s just your preference! You have been trying to make yourself love this ring and I don’t think you should have to do that. In my opinion the diamond is the most sentimental part of the ring. I recently had my diamond reset as my setting of 8 years had some damage. The new halo setting is different than my previous solitaire but it still feels like my ring. I think if you are still so conflicted with this current setting that is your answer. Get what you wanted all along and I really don’t think you will regret your decision! 

Post # 4
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Newbee

You should go for it- especially if you and your Fiance talked about it and it’s a decision you’re both ok with.

I just did this- here’s my long(ish) story that I hope helps:

We got engaged back in August of last year and even though we picked out the diamond and setting together, I didn’t fully understand diamonds or the setting options out there. I started with a good cut diamond, swapped it for an excellent cut within a month (thankfully). The only setting I ever tried on was a Tiffany style six prong knife edge so that’s what we picked.

Imagine how silly I felt when about four months ago I found an incredible local jeweler who designs custom rings. I fell in love with her work. I asked my fiancé if he would be ok with me redesigning a new setting for my stone (I also paid for it but we still consider it a joint financial decision) with his input and he wanted me to be happy- similar to yours.

My white gold six prong solitaire is now a beautiful rose gold bezel with milgrain and filigree detailing, along with texture and surprise diamonds. The bezel gives me the security and doesn’t get caught on things like my prongs were. My ring is sized correctly to my finger, it’s thinner and will stack well.

I’ve only been wearing it for two weeks but I know I made the right choice. My fiancé says he finds himself admiring it more often and I think about my ring way less.

I was nervous but now this ring feels like MY ring. I’m excited for it to be in our wedding photos. 

As far as reactions, my mom was a little surprised (I don’t see her often) but then she couldn’t get over how much better it suited me. 

Coworkers just noticed today- they said wait is something different? I could of sworn you had white gold or something – I didn’t acknowledge it haha. 

You don’t owe anyone an explanation. At the end of the day, of course it’s somewhat sentimental- and a new setting will be with time as well- but it is also what you will look at every day on your hand. It should be comfortable and should feel like you. I also wear, like, NO jewelry so I was very particular about this being my most special piece- it needed to be right. I may have an entirely different ring than the one I was proposed to with but it hasn’t changed the way I think of my actual proposal or the wonderful man I get to marry in November. 

 

I will say, before you take the plunge, make sure you have tried on any styles you’re curious about. It seems like you’re really liking the halo though! 

Post # 5
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Wannabee

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Post # 6
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Worker bee

I am having my engagement ring re-set, but I have been married for a while. My husband had a family stone and then he took that stone to a very old jeweler and had a ring made w/ zero input from me. Anyway I was never that impressed by the overall workmanship of the ring, it’s set up very high, so it catches on stuff, etc. I wanted to get it reset, but didn’t have the guts to say anything for a long time, then when I finally did I wasn’t totally sure what to do and also the other expensive of life got in the way- at this point there is a pretty strong attachment to the overall “layout” of the ring (6 side stones, 3 on each side) so I am having the whole thing remade, with all of the same stones and a few more added into the basket/gallery. 

Anyway, my advice is to change it now before life gets in the way, before it’s in wedding pics, etc. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I had to have my original ering reset due to an issue with the setting. Although the second setting I picked was similar, I never felt the emotional attachment to the new ring as I did the original. Ultimately, it ended up sitting in a drawer and I never wore it. When I looked at it, I could only think of the first ring, the one my F I proposed with that meant so much to me.

I finally ended up picking out a completely different center stone and a different style of setting, and now I just wear the new ring (ring 3). The reset ering still sits in a drawer.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Just remember  to  hales are just a current fad too !!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Although halo rings are currently popular they have been around since the early Georgian era (1700s)  so I wouldn’t call them trendy. Get what you love! 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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kdums2018 :  I would also agree that they are a bit of a reoccurring trend, you may not like the look, say, 10 years down the road. That said, if you’re going to continue switching out your settings from time to time and the diamond is more sentimental to you, I would definitely go with what you love most now! For me, the setting is more important and sentimental as it’s what my fiancé actually put on my finger the day he proposed. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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Tara72818 :  oh that’s a wonderful option! I would go for it if you love it now, you can always remove it later, but who doesn’t like a little extra bling?? 😉 also, I love that you’re keeping the same “ring” that you got engaged with! Can’t wait to see the before and after pictures 🙂 

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