Post # 32
Member
1379 posts
Bumble bee
This is all very interesting to me as we just received our initial costs from our reception venue – I wasn’t totally shocked but it still took my breath away for a minute!! (And I must also say here that my parents are very very graciously paying for most if not all of our wedding – so it’s not something I have to worry about perse, but it is definitely something I am thinking about.) Makes me wonder how much others are paying/have paid for their weddings. I think I won’t steal this thread and I will go post another topic.
But to answer the original question – Yes I am definitely thinking differently now that I am a bride – and I am dreading the costs of attending 7 weddings in 2009 while planning my own January, 2010 wedding! And I’ve also never heard of "paying for you dinner" – that just seems bizarre to me!
Post # 33
Member
302 posts
Helper bee
Great Topic!
I have always given a gift off of the registry. If I am giving cash, it is usually 100.00. If I am unable to attend a wedding, we try to give a nicer gift. Now that I am planning my own wedding, I am just hoping that everyone is able to come. Not because I want them to give me money to cover the cost, because I want every seat that I am paying for filled! I don’t expect for people to "cover the plate". Honestly, if that was the case, there are a lot of people in my family that would think that 40.00 covers the plate. They would have no clue how much a downtown, city wedding costs, as mine will be the first one. I just want them to show up and have a great time!! Honestly, I fill like by throwing a super nice, chic wedding downtown that I am giving a gift to some of my family members who haven’t really been to a wedding like the one I am planning.