Post # 1
I have only been engaged for a week, and I know I am probably still riding the “just engaged high”… But I honestly feel like our relationship got a whole lot deeper all of a sudden. I feel like now more than ever we are on the same page and can be completely honest and open… not that we weren’t before, but now we can talk more openly about the future without me feeling like I’m pressuring him. It’s just kind of a great feeling. I’m really excited about our future and I’m so glad I’m spending the rest of my life with my soulmate. 🙂
It’s kind of weird because in my previous relationship after we were engaged I didn’t have this feeling at all… And I slowly started to resent him and started to dread our future. I guess it was obvious that we weren’t meant to be together.
Has being engaged changed your relationship? For the better or worse? Has it stayed the same?
Post # 3
I’ve been engaged since Christmas Eve and I can tell a difference in our connection. It’s not a HUGE one, but not just a slight one either. Anyways, I think for the past two weeks we have both been riding on the “high” and excitement. I don’t expect it to stay much longer. The connection between us two does seem to be a lot stronger and deeper. I absolutely love it. I think it’s because J wasn’t pressured into proposing (though his family brought it up daily) and he was very happy with his decision not to wait like I expected. So, things have been very exciting and well, I’m definitely a blushing bride to be! 😀
Post # 4
I was engaged November 7th and the high is still there 🙂 We have been together 8 years..but it still brought everything to a whole new level.
Post # 5
YES ! Totally! In a good way. There was a lot of tension between us leading up to the engagement because we’ve been together for 9 yeras, and I was beginning to think he would never propose. Now 8 months after being engaged, we are as happy as can be
Post # 6
Yes, exactly in the way that you describe. In fact, the engagement had a bigger effect than getting married itself.. like the rest of our lives started from that point on.
Post # 7
Things definitely changed when we got engaged. It was just like… excitement and contentment and a weight being lifted off our shoulders all at once. It was like everything we’d talked about was starting to happen. Even better when we were actually MARRIED.
Post # 8
Yes! Him asking me to marry him was a complete suprise and it’s amazing knowing someone loves me so much!! Before being engaged we both had our hearts set on getting engaged in 2012 (so I thought lol)… so I never bugged him or even mentioned it because I knew the time would come. After 3 months of him acting weird I then found out why when he got down on one knee in front of the Castle in Magic Kingdom and asked me to marry him!
Post # 9
ive been engaged since october and things definitely feel diffferent.. for me at least. I’m less insecure about things (wasnt a lot before but have always had some) i feel like i’m more layed back, happier, etc… hard to describe, but has changed.
Post # 10
Like the OP, it’s only been a little less than two weeks, so we’re probably still riding that high. 😉
I’ve noticed my fiance has been more…snugglier. Is that even a word? More affectionate I suppose, and even a bit more romantic. And he’s not exactly the sensitive type (not in a bad way, but in a normal clueless guy way) so it just makes me want to run out and marry him right now!
Post # 11
My relationship has definitely changed. We are saving more money than ever before. The love is still there and deeper than before too.
The downside? EVERYONE has an opinion about our relationship, the engagement and the wedding or marriage itself. If this happens be strong and remember, YOU are marrying this man who you LOVE and it is only YOU who has the real vantage point that matters.
Post # 12
Towards the end of our engagement, I finally noticed how our relationship changed. We had been through so much planning our wedding, and he became my rock. Even the years that we’ve been married, our love for each other has just grown so much.
Post # 13
I didn’t experience any of this when I got engaged, but I can totally relate to a lot of this when I got married.
I think because we always planned on getting married, the engagement was so logical and more of a formal step.
Post # 14
Our relationship hasn’t changed at all. we talk about our wedding and forever a little more, but thats about it!
Post # 15
I agree with all PPs – there are lovely relationship changes when you get engaged. Even way, 1000x times better when you are married, too. :o)
Just a word of warning, however – we also fought A TON (like, way more than before or after) during our engagement. It is a super stressful time full of big emotions, so don’t let the fights/stress get you down when/if they happen. You will get through it.
Post # 16
It’s definitely changed us fo the better. We are so much closer!! I think it’s because we know we are about to be ONE!!!