(Closed) Has getting married changed how much you will gift in the future?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes. I am not married yet, but seeing how generous people were at my shower made me realize I have been stingy in the past. I did just graduate college so I was pretty tight on cash the past few years so I guess I had a little bit of a reason but moving forward I will definitely be more generous when giving wedding gifts.

Post # 4
1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Its the opposite for me.  I intend to give less in the future based on what I got.  Apparently I’ve been way too generous.

Post # 5
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@philodendron:  Not married yet, but, honestly, I feel guilty about the little that I do give already because I feel embarassed I cannot afford more. I want to give more, but I am a firm believer that you should give based on what you can afford. I know that I am not able to afford the same thing that someone earning twice as much as I do. However, we have increased the amount that we are giving to reflect the fact that I am now working in my field and not working minimum wage or in school anymore (though we are still paying down plenty of debt). We save all year for things like this so that we don’t feel it financially when it’s time to give a gift. That being said, if you are able to give more then go for it. Just don’t go in debt doing it 🙂

Post # 6
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

It might.  I usually gift about $150-200 when I go to weddings, but mine is coming up soon and I’m the first in the group to get hitched.  I’ll prob give the same amt everyone gives me when it’s their turn to get married.

Post # 7
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@philodendron:  mooost definitely. I am so embarrassed now, in hindsight, by the gifts I’ve given in the past. Granted, I was still a college student then without a job, and who knew NOTHING about weddings, but still! Now that I am planning one, I see what time, effort and money it takes and just what a HUGE occassion it is overall. so I will definitely be way more generous then I have been, the next time I attend a wedding.

Post # 8
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

To be honest, we had such a range of “values” for the gifts we were given that there’s no way we could really figure out what’s appropriate – it’s just what people can afford. Some friends/family could afford to give us up to $400, others could only afford $50. Either way it was incredibly generous for them to give what they could.

I think getting married actually changed what I will give as gifts in the future. I found that I treasured the sentimental gifts much more than the cash. So a recipe book that my cousin made (which had recipes and notes from all the family in it), or an heirloom from my grandmother are the gifts that almost brought me to tears, even though the cost of them was very little. So for close friends and family, I’ll almost definitely be changing what I give them at weddings rather than how much.

Post # 9
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Now that I know what weddings cost I will defintely gift more going forward.

Post # 10
2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have given in the past but when I literally could not afford it I did not give. 🙁  I am super embarrassed over that now.  Going forward I will definitely give more!

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