Post # 1
After getting married two weeks ago and receiving gifts, Darling Husband and I feel like we have been soooo stingy at weddings we’ve attended in the past. While ~1/3 of people haven’t (yet?) given gifts, those who gave physical gifts or gave cash spent a median of at least over twice what Darling Husband and I have previously given at weddings. We are definitely going to give more at the upcoming weddings we attend!
Has anyone else experienced this?
Post # 3
Yes. I am not married yet, but seeing how generous people were at my shower made me realize I have been stingy in the past. I did just graduate college so I was pretty tight on cash the past few years so I guess I had a little bit of a reason but moving forward I will definitely be more generous when giving wedding gifts.
Post # 4
Its the opposite for me. I intend to give less in the future based on what I got. Apparently I’ve been way too generous.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@philodendron: Not married yet, but, honestly, I feel guilty about the little that I do give already because I feel embarassed I cannot afford more. I want to give more, but I am a firm believer that you should give based on what you can afford. I know that I am not able to afford the same thing that someone earning twice as much as I do. However, we have increased the amount that we are giving to reflect the fact that I am now working in my field and not working minimum wage or in school anymore (though we are still paying down plenty of debt). We save all year for things like this so that we don’t feel it financially when it’s time to give a gift. That being said, if you are able to give more then go for it. Just don’t go in debt doing it 🙂
Post # 6
It might. I usually gift about $150-200 when I go to weddings, but mine is coming up soon and I’m the first in the group to get hitched. I’ll prob give the same amt everyone gives me when it’s their turn to get married.
Post # 7
@philodendron: mooost definitely. I am so embarrassed now, in hindsight, by the gifts I’ve given in the past. Granted, I was still a college student then without a job, and who knew NOTHING about weddings, but still! Now that I am planning one, I see what time, effort and money it takes and just what a HUGE occassion it is overall. so I will definitely be way more generous then I have been, the next time I attend a wedding.
Post # 8
To be honest, we had such a range of “values” for the gifts we were given that there’s no way we could really figure out what’s appropriate – it’s just what people can afford. Some friends/family could afford to give us up to $400, others could only afford $50. Either way it was incredibly generous for them to give what they could.
I think getting married actually changed what I will give as gifts in the future. I found that I treasured the sentimental gifts much more than the cash. So a recipe book that my cousin made (which had recipes and notes from all the family in it), or an heirloom from my grandmother are the gifts that almost brought me to tears, even though the cost of them was very little. So for close friends and family, I’ll almost definitely be changing what I give them at weddings rather than how much.
Post # 9
Now that I know what weddings cost I will defintely gift more going forward.
Post # 10
I have given in the past but when I literally could not afford it I did not give. 🙁 I am super embarrassed over that now. Going forward I will definitely give more!