Post # 1
My Fiance and I were talking about our day and just some random stuff, nothing serious, in bed just now and he accidently called me by his ex’s name. It really hurt me but I didn’t know how to react, he’s done it once before when we first started dating a couple years ago. He told me it was an accident and then he fell asleep, i can hear him snoring now. I’m not sure if I should be furious or what!! Part of me wants to sleep on the couch because i’m so annoyed. He doesn’t talk to his ex anymore so i’m not sure why her name would even come up. What do you think bees? Should I just let it go or do I have a right to be pissed?
Post # 3
Were they together awhile? Maybe its something that’s still in the back of his mind, as is anyone you’ve spent a good amount of time with. Maybe something you said reminded him of her? I think it just accidentally happens sometimes. I’ve come close a couple times, usually after talking about the person. Unless you think something is actually going on, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Post # 4
my Fiance has done it a couple times when i’ve been trying to wake him up (so he wasn’t clear-headed). it doesn’t hurt my feelings because she was in his life for a long time. they were married and they had a kid together. i just take it as an opportunity to love him all up (she rarely ever touched him) and remind him who’s in his bed.
Post # 5
yes, once only but i was nagging him about info about her and he got frustrated with me and called me by her name – i know he didnt mean anything by it but i enjoy teasing him, ive even told our friends because we were in bed at the time and im evil
Post # 6
fi has never done this but i have i still have a lot to do with my ex has we have a son together. i’ve done it more than once. but my ex and my son have the same name so it usually goes unnoticed or he thinks i am calling him by my sons name… so phew… i would be upset if it was the other way round but it is an easy mistake to make and never intentional 🙂
Post # 7
It’s just a slip of the tongue- it wasn’t intentional so I don’t think you can be upset with him. I’ve never done it personally and my Fiance hasn’t either, but neither of us has had a relationship last as long as ours. At the beginning I confessed to him that I was worried I would and I apologized in advance, haha. But I didn’t. People mix words up and stuff all the time, I wouldn’t worry.
Post # 8
I don’t think it means anything. If he and his ex were together for a while, it is probably just habit. I was with my ex husband for fifteen years and his name rolls off my tongue every now and then. I certainly don’t want it to! It’s just habit.
Post # 9
My DH and I both did this a couple of times when we first got together, and it didn’t hurt my feelings. We all have pasts and to think that we don’t is silly. Since you guys have been together for awhile and are getting married in just a couple of weeks it might bother me more now if I was you.
Post # 10
Twice, but it was in our first year of dating. My name and his ex’s name start with the same letter, so I can understand how it happened. The first time, I laughed it off. The second time, I was a little pissed, but I let it go. It’s silly to start a fight over something like that.
Post # 11
DH has only done it once and that was when we were first dating and in bed together having sex. I didn’t say anything and he felt so bad afterwards that I have never brought it up again. Oh I will admit it hurt like heck. But I also realized that they were together for 8 years and we had just started dating.
Perhaps there has been some talk recently that has brought her up in his mind and it truly was a slip of the toungue. I know I had issues with jealousy and the ex for awhile even though I knew he was done with her, it was still there in the back of my mind at times. This is a stressful time for you right now and I would not give it too much weight.
Post # 12
It happened once. He was stoned for the first and only time in years, and he was half asleep. I was bothering him and he said, “EX’S NAME, leave me alone!” I got mad for a few minutes, but it was easy to rationalize it.
Post # 13
I can’t think of a time when he has called me by his ex’s name because we are polar opposites and before me, he was more of a play the field kind of guy, lots of short, fairly meaniningless relationships though she was the longest. I have called him my exs name when he was being particularly immature and a pest. It was something that ex would have done and was one of the reasons we broke up, exs inability to act like an adult, so it just really got under my skin. Fiance just laughed because the only association between Fiance and ex is bad crap that drives me nuts.
Post # 14
HE hasn’t. I have! Man does he get PO’ed!
Post # 15
Luckily for me Mr. Hedgie doesn’t really have any exes. He dated a couple girls in HS so briefly you can’t even call it a relationship what-so-ever. I have a few and have only called him one by accident a few times. Lucky for me their names sound so similar that nobody ever noticed! (Mr Hedgie is Brian… the ex is Ryan.) But I dated the other guys for quite a while and I honestly can’t tell you why his name slipped out but it did. I love Mr. Hedgie more than anything and would never ever ever want to be with my ex again so, just realize that sometimes accidents like that DO happen. It is a slip of the tongue. Have you ever called a teacher “Mom”? Same principle.