Post # 92
I don’t believe abortion is at all wrong within the current legal limits, so I am firmly pro-choice. I don’t consider the heartbeat to mean that the fetus feels pain or is conscious. To me, it is much more grievous to bring a child into the world that can’t be adequately cared for or loved.
I think a person would have to be missing a few IQ points to continuously use abortion as a sensible form of birth control. It’s so much more expensive and time-consuming, and I feel like everyone you hear talk about is relating an urban myth – you know, they know someone who supposedly had five abortions in four years or whatever.
Post # 93
Very true! Here in Canada it’s a little
easier, but I know there are a LOT of doctors in the States who REFUSE to perform sterilization procedures on people (especially women) who are under 30, or haven’t had kids, or haven’t had both a girl and a boy, etc. etc. etc.
Post # 94
Wow, a thread about abortion that got heated. Impossible!!
Post # 96
I was the only vote for the last choice so I thought I would share why and how I have come to this new opinion. I’m pro life. However after having hormone based cancer, pregnancy could bring it back and much worse. I am going to Stanford this week to get the exact chances for me to have a baby without getting cancer again. Anyway, I am also on remission medication, which was initially a fertility treatment. So I can get pregnant very easily, can not use most birth controls to prevent it, could die if I did get pregnant, and have a child with ambiguous genitalia if it were to make it, most pregnancies (while on this medication) miscarry by 12 weeks. On top of all that the doctors said they would schedule a c section as soon as the baby was developed enough. Hopefully, I will hear better news on Friday. But because of all of this, I would seriously consider terminating a pregnancy to save my life. I don’t know if I could ever live with that decision and hopefully will never have to make it.
Post # 97
I feel the same way as you, everyone should have the chance to live….Why do the unborn have to forfeit their chance to choose life? Really doesn’t make sense to me.
Normally I don’t even post on heated threads because I am not very successful at putting my thoughts into written words, but I had to say that I am pro-life, because it is important to me.
Post # 98
I pray you never have to. I’ve seen the consequences of that decision first hand regarding pregnancy and a hormone fueled tumor via my best friend and it wasn’t pretty at all… (and the choice was made to abort). I don’t wish that choice on anyone. I hope your doctor gives you good news….
May I suggest a book relevant to your situation?
Gianna Beretta Molla: A Woman’s Life, 1922-1962
Post # 99
Thank you for your courage to post!
Post # 100
@Abbyful: The reason we don’t call it anti-abortion and pro-abortion is because those of us that are pro-choice are NOT NOT NOT pro-abortion. Who on EARTH is pro-abortion? It’s a difficult and painful decision for a woman to make, and none of us want a woman to be in a position where she has to make it–but sometimes things happen that we just don’t foresee and couldn’t have prevented. What we DO want is for a woman to be able to safely and privately make the decision that is right for her. We want her to be able to go to a clinic and not be harrassed on the way in and the way out. We want her to be able to see a good doctor, and for that doctor not to fear for his/her personal safety just for doing their job. We want individuals, not the government, to be responsible for making this decision for themselves.
@OP: So it seems that, in fact, you didn’t want a thread wherein women share their experiences with pregnancy and technology and tell you how this has affected their views on this issue. What you wanted was a platform to tell all of us who are pro-choice why we shouldn’t be.
Post # 102
Yes, you’re both exactly right, Mrsmdphd and NDBee. Very interesting.
Post # 104
I’m pro-life. But I think I have a unique perspective on abortion. I don’t know very many people who have had abortions, but I do know a few… Including a friend who was forced to have one as a teenager… I will never forget her return to school and the devestating effect that it had on her life. (She was a senior in high school and a year away from being able to make an independent decision.) I lost all respect for her parents, and I know that that child is deeply missed. I hate the fact that the laws allowed that child to be killed, or made it acceptable for the grandparents to think that this was acceptable. The other significant abortion story in my life began before I was born… My mother’s best friend from high school had an abortion. She was a college student, and the father is now her husband. You need to know that I grew up with her daughter as a playmate and friend. I don’t just view the infant as an infant lost…but he or she was a friend lost… The daughter who I grew up with was a dear friend who lost her life in a tragic accident during high school. I didn’t grow up knowing about the abortion… but as soon as I learned about it… I realized that I lost out on a friend… I don’t think that anyone really thinks about the fact that the fetus who is growing inside will grow and change and be someone precious and special. I don’t just miss the friend that I grew up with … I miss the one that might have been… I think that there is value that is far more significant than a woman’s discomfort for a short period in her life…the loss of one life will never be replaced by the gain of another… I know that there is always the argument about health issues… but from what I understand that is a significantly lower number than the number of abortions performed… I know that abortionists target lower income regions which is a horrific loss on an already downtrodden area. I know a significant number of people who would love to have the opportunity to adopt a child, and a significant number who had kids as a surprise… early or late in life… their lives have been blessed greatly by the “extra kid!”
Post # 105
I believe in a woman’s right to choose abortion if it’s the best thing for her body and circumstances but I do find it incredibly sad that even with all the eduction and access to almost free contraception (I’m talking $3 for six months of BC Pills or 120 condoms in New Zealand!) so many abortions are still being performed.
And to a certain extent I do believe that if you are having sex then somewhere in the back of your mind you do need to be prepared to accept the possible consequences such as STD’s and pregnancy.
Post # 106
I was molested daily by my father for several years. And while he stayed away from full intercourse, there was a time I thought things were going that way, and feared that all my plans in life would be derailed by my having my own father’s child. So I can’t imagine ever being anything other than pro-choice.
Of your options, I selected, “I was pro-choice and my pregnancy in no way changed that.” However, the fact is that having my own children made me even more strongly pro-choice. My daughter was date-raped at one point. And while thankfully, she did not get pregnant from that, I was very happy that if she had, she would not have had to raise the rapist’s child.